Things Your Girlfriend Wishes You Knew - Post 1Here’s a secret:

There’s a set of things that women wish their man knew… but that they will rarely outright tell him.

Wait… if she wants me to know, why wouldn’t she just tell me?

Well, it could be due to a list of different reasons, but it’s usually either because she doesn’t want to offend you… or she doesn’t want to seem needy.

…And here’s the bigger secret:

These things that your girlfriend wishes you knew are things that she really wants… and that will help to keep both your girlfriend happy and your relationship strong.

Let’s get into them… here are 7 things your girlfriend wishes you knew:

Note: Big thanks to Rogaine® for partnering with us to make this post possible. I use Rogaine® daily to prevent my hair loss… and use it in #2 below to give your girlfriend what she wants.

1. She wants you to dress well

Things Your Girlfriend Wishes You Knew - She Wants You To Dress Well

You’ve heard us say this countless times before:

One of the best things a man can do for himself is to dress well.

…And this is especially true when it comes to your relationship. Women rated a man’s sense of style as his most important physical attribute (rated above height, face, and muscular build). source

Now: 

We’ve all been there. You’re in a relationship… you get comfortable with each other… and then you start to dress more and more ‘comfortably’. Now, we all know that comfort is great… but you should also know, laziness isn’t. Being lazy with your dress communicates that you no longer feel a need to put your best foot forward (which is a huge turnoff for your woman).

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

We have a great post to help building a functional, yet minimal wardrobe, but here are a few quick steps to jump start your progress:

  1. Only wear clothes that fit. Nothing makes you look lazier than having shirts and pants that are too big or too small for you. Focus on fit, it’s the most important aspect of dressing well.
  2. Donate your old (and poorly fitting) clothes. By getting rid of them, you remove the temptation to wear them. Donating is also a great way to give back.

2. She cares about your hair

Things Your Girlfriend Wishes You Knew - She Cares About Your Hair

Okay, so you’re balding.

Well, the first and most important thing is to realize:

Not only do everyone’s hair follicles begin to shrink as they age (which results in thinning hair), but balding is also an extremely common issue (and happens to 40% of all men source).

But I get it:

You don’t care that it happens to other guys… it’s your hair, it’s a part of who you are/your confidence… and it’s happening to you right now.

Well, there’s good news and bad news:

The bad: she cares about your hair… but the (really) good: not only can the right hairstyle downplay your thinning hair, but you can do something to possibly prevent future hair loss and even regrow your hair.

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

So you’re balding… while it’s not ideal, nowadays, it’ not an issue anymore. Follow these two steps:

Step #1: Use the right hairstyles/haircuts

Here’s what celebrity groomer Benjamin Thigpen recommends: Short to mid length is what I always tell people when asked what length their hair should be when thinning. I suggest choosing a side to brush the hair or (using your hands) comb it over to one side.  I don’t recommend ever sticking the hair straight up, as it accents the scalp area where the hair is thinning.

Step #2: Do something about it

Try Rogaine®. Its active ingredient, minoxidil, boosts follicle activity to jump start the hair growth cycle, and the creation of more hair proteins (which are the building blocks of strong, healthy hair). Using it is simple, just rub it gently into your scalp when you wake up, and before bed (it shouldn’t take more than 30 seconds).

3. She wants you to surprise her

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It happens to almost every couple:

The longer you’re together, the more you settle into a routine, and the more you tend to do the same thing each week grows. And before they know it, a lot of guys hit the moment where they realize that they can’t remember the last time they did something new.

But guys, remember the old adage:

Variety is the spice of life… and nowhere is this truer than in a long (or short) term relationship. Not only do women love to do new things, but it keeps things interesting.

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

The best part about this one: your surprises don’t all need to be big things (like a vacation), it could be something as small as #1 below:

  1. Pick up flowers on the way home from work. Cheesy? Yep, but that doesn’t make it any less likely to make her smile.
  2. Find a new restaurant. Make reservations a few days in advance, and let your girlfriend know that she has a dinner date… but don’t tell her where!
  3. Make plans for holidays/days off. Every holiday is a great opportunity for the two of you to spend time together doing something new… even if it’s as simple as going for a drive to a nearby town.

4. She likes when you get her thoughtful gifts

Things Your Girlfriend Wishes You Knew - She Likes When You Get Her Thoughtful Gifts

Your girlfriend loves when you get her thoughtful gifts… because it shows that not only were you thinking about her, but that you care enough about her to take the time/money to get her something.

And this one probably isn’t a surprise to most guys… because there are very few people (men or women) who don’t like getting gifts.

…But here’s the secret to getting your girlfriend a gift:

The size or cost of the gift is truly unimportant. The only thing that matters is the thought (I know… it sounds cliché). We did a full post on thoughtful gifts for your girlfriend… but in short, you’re looking for something that is one (or more than one) of the following:

  1. Closely matches her likes and interests
  2. Is something that she’ll use frequently
  3. Is something she’s been talking about
  4. Is generally sweet and considerate (see here for more)

Makes sense, right?

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

I’ve been there: it can be stressful trying to get her the right thoughtful gift for your girl… but I’ve found these few things to make it dramatically easier.

  1. Make a list of your girlfriend’s interests. No matter what they are, from Pilates to puppies, start making a short list of things that make her smile.
  2. Use these interests as search terms on Amazon/Etsy. This will give you a huge visual list, of targeted options, to help you pick the best one for your girl. In my experience, Amazon is better for more practical stuff… and Etsy is better for more unique/creative stuff.
  3. Use gift wrap. The final, thoughtful touch. You can add gift wrapping to a ton of Amazon products, and a few Etsy ones. If it’s not available, take the 5 minutes to wrap it.

5. She loves your goofy side

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This is one of the most underrated things on here:

Your girl loves your goofy side. She loves seeing you laugh, dance like crazy, and make funny faces (even if the last two sometimes make her cringe).

The reason why?

Showing your imperfect parts is endearing and helps her to connect with you… and also (often) shows her a side of you that other people may not get to see.

…And of course, not only does everyone love laughing, but it’s scientifically proven to be good for you! source

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

This one is easy:

Unplug from the rest of your responsibilities for a little while, and relax.

Why? Without the constant stress of checking e-mails, Facebook, text messages, or work-related items, your mind will start to open up to the fun and the humor in life that’s all around you.

6. She likes when you’re a gentleman

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Guys, this one is simple:

Who do you think she’d rather be with? Someone with good manners, who treats her like a princess… or a guy who looks after himself first, and doesn’t take care of her?

It’s an easy answer, right?

And luckily for you, nowadays, it’s almost rare for men to be gentlemen… which means that being a chivalrous gentleman to her is all the more impactful.

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

Being a gentleman isn’t a single action… it’s a series of little ones, that you do consistently. Here are a few great places to start:

  1. Open doors for her. It’s a simple gesture, but means a lot to her. Open her car doors occasionally, too.
  2. Pull out her chair/sit down after her. When you’re eating at a restaurant, wait until she sits down to sit… but don’t pull her chair out before every meal (it will get quickly obnoxious). Do it occasionally and each time it’ll come off as a romantic/chivalrous gesture.
  3. Be generally polite. This one is sort of a catch all. Do the well-known polite things like: saying please/thank you, being punctual, not talking with food in your mouth, etc.

7. She likes when you cook for her

Things Your Girlfriend Wishes You Knew - She Likes When You Cook For Her

When I first read this, I was hugely surprised:

Research shows that women find men most sexy when they’re working in the kitchen (like making coffee or a cake)… not when they’re carrying out ‘manly’ tasks (like using a power drill or saw). source

Crazy, right?

Don’t worry if you’re not a great chef (some tips to help with this below), it’s another one of those things that the thought is the most important part.

…And to get the most bang for your cooking buck, either make her:

  1. A romantic, candlelight dinner (go with: pasta and a bottle of wine)
  2. Breakfast in bed (go with: pancakes, eggs, coffee)

Give Your Girlfriend What She Wants with These Action Steps:

Okay, so you’re not a great, chef… no problem, here are some quick tips:

  1. Take a cooking class. Even better, take a class with her.
  2. Learn on your own. Any blog worth its salt will give you clear, easy instructions to make something (two of my favorite: for low carb recipesfor everything else). And if you’re looking to learn how to do something specific (like how to dice an onion), check out YouTube.
  3. Cook together. Not only is this a lot of fun, but it allows you to combine your cooking experience/skills together.

In Conclusion

The longer you’re in a relationship, the easier it is to get lazy, and stop doing the things that made it so special in the first place.

But you’re not that guy, right? (or if you are, do you really want to be that guy?)

Go through the action steps we’ve outlined above, and start doing all the things that your girlfriend wishes you would. It will help keep both her and your relationship happy.