Gentlemen today, we’re showing 10 must-know tips on how to be confident around girls more.
Confidence is frustrating. It seems like sometimes you’ve got it, sometimes you don’t. And times when you really need it, it can seem impossible to tap into.
Well don’t worry, because today we’re showing you 10 ways to have a steady supply of confidence when talking to girls, in any situation.
We taught you how to approach a girl already and because we don’t want you to show any girl you’re in fake it til you make it mode, we’re also letting you know the #1 way most men accidentally appear insecure.
Alright, let’s jump in.
10 Ways On How To Be Confident Around Girls More
10. Make It Bang
Known to just about any guy who’s ever pre-gamed before a night out, listening to the right music at the right moment... can be just the ticket on how to be confident around girls.
Don’t believe it? In a study by Northwestern University, research showed that listening specifically to bass-heavy tunes like rap or hip hop not only reduced anxiety. But actually increased confidence.
So, whether it’s Eminem, Migos or Dr. Dre, let the bass knock a little before you go out and see what it does for your mindset.
9. Pre-Game Exertion
Before going out, a lot of guys tend to build up anxiety and psych themselves out. And at a time when they should be getting excited, they’re busy overthinking things, losing confidence... and even talking themselves into just staying home.
Sound like anyone you know? Well, here’s to handle it. Instead of worrying about how the night is going to go, go for a quick 10-20 min run.
For the same reasons cardio helps people be more productive and focused, it’ll also help clear your mind if you’ve got the jitters before a night of initiating conversations with girls.
While listening intently to a group’s conversation from afar is kinda creepy, if you overhear a topic of interest don’t be afraid to “eaves-jump” into the conversation.
And what is eaves-jumping exactly? It’s a word we made up. But basically, it’s just like eavesdropping, except instead of dropping it and walking away, you jump in and join the conversation.
Now we know what you’re thinking: That seems like it requires a lot of confidence. And... you’d be right, but the truth is, it’s also a lot easier than you think. As long as you don’t hesitate, jump in on the right topic and make sure to talk to the entire group, you will undeniably look and feel like the most confident guy in the room.
When in doubt, friend it out. It might seem like a no-brainer, but having a trusty bro by your side can boost your confidence in some major ways. First of all, having a friend, even just one single friend to have your back, instinctively signals to girls... that you’re a normal, well-adjusted dude who she can talk to.
Basically, being around friends can get girls treating you like you’re confident... even if you’re not. But wait, there’s more. Not only will you feel comfortable bantering back and forth with your friend, you will also have someone there to move the conversation along if it starts to stall.
A “good” wingman will also affirm positive features about you, which means a girl automatically has a second opinion to fall back on, rather than your word alone.
6. Non-Evasive Eye Contact
As awkward as it may seem at first, confident people always remember to keep eye contact. They just don’t worry about it. All too often, men tend to get anxious and look away from a woman when she’s talking... or do the same when they are speaking to her.
Not only will remembering to maintain eye contact make you look more confident, but it also tends to create a genuine connection with the girl, which as you’ll find out... is what really boosts your self-confidence.
5. Extrovert Your Posture
If you think about it, there’s no rule that says quiet guys can’t be confident. And there’s definitely no rule... that says introverts can’t have expressive posture.
And that’s good news, because while girls will try to have a conversation with quiet guys, they instinctively tend to not want to initiate a conversation with someone who seems slouched and shy.
And if that’s not enough of a confidence booster, standing up straight with your chin up has been shown to actually increase testosterone flow in the body, boosting confidence and making you feel more powerful.
4. Wear Fashionable Footwear
For sneakerheads and guys with a strong sense of what looks good, this is old news, but for some guys it takes a long time to realize: Wearing the right shoes is like a cheat-code for more confidence around girls. And the reason is twofold.
Fresh shoes just make you feel good and less surprisingly: Women are genuinely impressed by a nice pair of shoes on a guy. In fact, numerous studies show that one of the first things a woman notices... is a man’s shoes. Which means if you get them right, you’ll know it.
So what are the “right” type of shoes? The choice is yours, but anything that conveys your own style and shows good taste... will absolutely work to gain real confidence-boosting attention.
3. The Machine Gun Approach
You’ve heard it before: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.” It is easy to overthink any situation, especially if you feel unprepared for it. This is why it is important to try: The Machine Gun Approach
What is The Machine Gun Approach? Well it’s actually pretty simple: Building confidence is the result of routinely playing a simple numbers game. In other words, talk to as many women as you can, no matter the quality of interaction.
Ask your cashier how her day went. Talk to your barista, ask a random girl for advice on where to eat. It doesn’t matter who you talk to or what you talk about. It’ll be difficult at first but after a series of small, simple interactions you will become clearly more confident.
Looking for even more tricks to approach girls confidently? Check out this video right here: How to Approach a Girl Like an Alpha Male (Easily Do This)
2. Dump the Downers
Alright, this trick might seem a little extreme, but its importance cannot be understated. The wrong friends will kill your confidence.
Think about it as having a bad wingman, instead of supporting you and building your morale, they throw you under the bus the minute you around girls. And not only that... they may even make you feel bad about yourself even when they’re not around.
So if you’re “friends” with a confidence killer, the best thing might be to. Because at the end of the day, you’ve probably got enough doubt and double-guessing as it is... and you don’t need anyone around making things harder for you.
1. Make A Mentor
Confidence is a skill, and like any skill, the easiest way to learn it is by watching and learning from other people. For a lot of guys, their confidence is picked up from a combination of mom, dad, grandpa, older brother, and the basic social dynamic.
But for other guys, they’ve gotta figure it linkout on their own. Either way, the key to confidence, whether it’s confidence among your peers, at work, or how to be confident around girls, is identifying your mentors (whoever they are) and understanding how their style of confidence can work for you.
The Number 1 Way Women Sense a Lack of Confidence
As promised, here is the number one way women sense insecurity. When guys don’t have confidence they tend to try and substitute it with nervous habits. Women can pick up on most of them, but one habit screams, “Yeah, this guy is nervous.”
So, what habit is it? Continuous, non-stop talking. People are afraid of making things awkward, that is a fact.
So when there is a silence in the conversation guys try and fill it with meaningless banter. However, by doing this they realeaving how nervous they really are. Instead of chatting away, try listening intently to what she has to say, not only will she find that you are a great listener (even if you are pretending), but she will also never suspect how nervous you really are.
Those are the the 10 crucial ways on how to be more confident around girls and #1 sign that you are lacking confidence.
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