In this post, we're getting to know your platonic soulmate, your best friend for life.
I've shared a lot of tips to help men and women manage their relationships, from getting over infatuation to dealing with a jealous girlfriend. In this blog, we're answering the question, "do soulmates exist?" and breaking down all the platonic soulmate signs you need to know.
Ready to find out who your platonic soulmate is? Keep reading.
What is a Platonic Soulmate?
A platonic soulmate is someone who you feel a deep connection with but without the sense of romance that passionate love has.
Meeting a platonic soul connection is like meeting a kindred spirit. That means every part of your being feels familiar in every way - you share the same values, have similar life stories, share the same quirks, and understand each other through and through.
This kind of soulmate connection is most common with best friends, where mutual respect and pure love feel natural.
Romantic vs. Platonic Soulmate - What's The Difference?
The main difference between a romantic soulmate and a platonic soulmate is that the former, aside from finding a loyal confidant in a person, involves physical intimacy and passionate love. A platonic connection, on the other hand, is a relationship between friends that is still loving in nature but lacks the fiery intimacy romantic couples have.
A platonic connection is also known as platonic love, which involves deep affection toward a friend. Platonic love in a close friendship may look like acknowledging your best friend as someone similar to a sister or a brother. It can also look like being extra protective of each other's well-being or a healthy partnership where you motivate each other to be a better person.
Compared to having a romantic soulmate, having a platonic soulmate doesn't necessarily have to end in marriage. It's more like acknowledging the fact that the other person holds an important piece of you even when you're not romantically attracted to each other.
Signs You Found Your Platonic Soulmate
We tend to use the word "friend" loosely. We use it to call anyone we know through a common friend, anyone we're remotely familiar with, or our closest work colleague. But how can you tell whether a friend is your platonic soulmate hiding in plain sight?
How do you know if he is the one? Watch out for these green flags.
1. You have a language that only you two would understand.
Have you ever gotten that rush of adrenaline after having an instant connection with someone? It's almost like having a eureka moment. You barely knew each other, but you could already finish each other's sentences. That's the kind of thing that happens when you meet your soul mate. You dress the same, jive to the same genre of music, find each other's quirks relatable, and share the same sentiments in life.
2. They support your aspirations.
One thing I've noticed about having a best friend and having a romantic partner is that a best friend would always encourage you to spread your wings and take a leap of faith, whereas a romantic partner may hold you back from fear of losing you in the process. That's the thing about platonic soulmates. It's a sure thing, and it doesn't fear anything because you both know you'll always have each other no matter what.
3. Your personalities complement each other.
Opposites attract even in the context of having a platonic soulmate. The only difference is that a platonic friendship provides a bigger window for qualities and imperfections that a romantic partner may find less tolerable.
4. You share similar likes and dislikes.
Best friends are literally just like two peas in a pod. Aside from being inseparable, being able to find joy in each other's likes and interests brings you closer together.
5. You help each other to learn and grow.
Having a best friend is like finding a brother or a sister from different parents. And just like a brother or a sister, these guys will always be there to give you much-needed moral and emotional support when a situation calls for them.
6. You never run out of things to talk about
The best thing about a platonic friendship is that it's comfortable. Too comfortable that you can literally talk about anything without getting bored or tired of each other.
7. You came to each other's lives at the right time.
I've always believed that the right people always come into our lives at the perfect moment. Do you still remember the day you first met your best friend? How about the day you realized that you both share a bond like no other?
8. You are asked why you are not dating.
This is a common occurrence, especially if you and your best friend have opposite genders. People are always fascinated to know whether or not you're dating because your chemistry together is just that good.
9. You can feel the distance when you are apart.
We all get separation anxiety whenever we're forced to spend days without our best friend. In some way, you and your platonic soulmate have become each other's lifeline. Being apart from them, even just for a day, feels like an eternity.
10. There's no judgement at all.
Like I said, you can be anyone you want to be when you're platonic soul mate is around. You don't set rules for each other apart from enjoying each other's company and helping each other grow emotionally and spiritually.
Why Are Platonic Soulmates Important, Too?
Having a platonic relationship brings a lot of positive benefits to your life.
For one, having a platonic soul connection helps with emotional development. As social beings, making friends and establishing healthy relationships help us develop empathy, compassion, and generosity.
Second, our friends act as our number one support system, especially for some people who may not find the same support as their family. Finding a home in the form of a friend makes everything in life so much easier.
Having a platonic soulmate also comes in handy when making important life decisions. We naturally value opinions from our closest friends, more so from our best friends. A platonic friend prevents you from making stupid decisions and encourages you to make better ones.
Lastly, having a loyal best friend by your side is proven to help you live longer! Having a friend you can trust and run to when life gets hard makes surviving this chaotic world much more bearable.
Iconic Platonic Relationships on Movies
These iconic duos are epitomes of a platonic soulmate relationship. Consider this list your very own does of movie trivia.
1. Alan Turing and Joan Clarke - 'The Imitation Game'
Did you know that the real life Alan Turing and Joan Clarke were once married? During their relationship together, Turing privately admitted his homosexuality to Clarke. Luckily, she was unfazed. Clarke, however, decided they're better off friends and ended their marriage by then.
2. Clint Barton and Natasha Romanoff - 'Marvel Cinematic Universe'
There is no relationship more iconic than Hawkeye and Black Widow. Do you remember that scene in the movie End Game where they have to fight for each other's life? And although it ended up with Natasha sacrificing her own life on behalf of Clint, the scene was a great example of unconditional love.
3. David and Stevie -'Schitt's Creek'
Spoiler alert: David and Stevie started as each other's love interest. But their unique dynamic evolved into one of the best fictional friendships I've ever witnessed on television. They even dated the same guy before realizing that Jake wasn't worth their friendship.
4. Harry Potter and Hermione Granger - 'Harry Potter Franchise'
I'd be lying if I told you I didn't peg Harry and Hermione together. I mean, we all got used to having the main characters fall in love with each other. But as we all know, it didn't turn out that way in the movie. If we're being honest, Hermione would probably get bored with Harry as her romantic partner. That guy brings a lot of baggage with him.
5. Frodo and Sam from "Lord of the Rings"
I think we can all agree that Sam is the real heron in the Lord of the Rings. I'm also sure that we can all echo the same sentiment, that is, Sam being the most loyal friend anyone could ask for. Imagine having to carry a useless bag of potatoes on your back while you travel on foot.
6. Joey Tribbiani and Pheobe Buffay - 'Friends'
It's evident that Phoebe and Joey are the odd ones in Friends, but they sure are the funniest and most interesting characters in the group. They would often tease each other but never really follow through with their actions.
7. Haley and Lucas - 'One Tree Hill'
Lucas and Haley had known each other for years, even before the pilot episode of One Tree Hill started. In the show, their friendship is threatened when Haley gets into a relationship with Nathan. Thankfully, 'Laley' survived the whole thing and remained good friends with each other.
8. Turk and J.D. - 'Scrubs'
Turk, and J.D. is the perfect definition of bromance. These guys prove there is no shame in showing affection to your bestfriend even if you're both men. We stan men who are comfortable with their own masculinity.
9. Derek Morgan and Penelope Garcia - 'Criminal Minds
Derek and Penelope's friendship dynamic is a breath of fresh air by television standards. They obviously can't get enough of each other, but only because these guys make each other look cool. They prove you can be platonic in a male and female dynamic.
10. Kirk and Spock - "Star Trek"
Kirk and Spock were introduced as knowing each other from childhood. In an article in Time Magazine, Leonard Nimoy, the actor who played Spock, described the relationship between these two characters as a "great sense of brotherhood. He shared that "Spock was tremendously loyal and greatly appreciated Kirk's talent and leadership abilities. He was devoted to seeing that whatever Kirk needed to be done got done."
Frequently Asked Questions
Want to know more about being in a platonic relationship? I've answered some more questions below.
Can platonic soulmates fall in love?
Any friendship can evolve in a romantic relationship. Based on experience, romantic couples that started from being really good friends fare better at weathering storms together. Why? Because they share a deep connection that transcends physical attraction.
Do platonic soulmates marry?
If they choose to take their friendship to the next level and start a life together, they can definitely marry each other.
Can platonic friends fall in love?
Again, taking your friendship to the next level is a decision you both have to make. If you think you're dynamic can work as romantic partners, and if you're brave enough to see what's in store for the both of you, then fall in love by all means.
How can you deepen your relationship with your platonic soulmate?
There are many ways to deepen your relationship with your platonic soulmate. But the best way is to experience new things together. Why? Because different experiences teach us different lessons, whether on love, life, or career. The more memories you share, the deeper your bond will be.
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