There's no better way to spook a girl than the creepy things guys do when flirting with her. In this post, we've listed down stuff that makes you seem like a creep and tips on acting normal when flirting with a girl.
As an expert on dating and a life coach, and with written articles up on Yahoo! Life and UP Journey, I have listed common schemes out there that can scare a woman. Let me guide you on the no-no's when it comes to flirting.
The 11 Ultra-Creepy Things Guys Do By Accident When Flirting
Often, you might find yourself doing the opposite of Mr. Romantic. It may be because you're nervous, or you don't have any idea how to flirt.
11. Too Much Prolonged Eye Contact
Gazing into each other's eyes may seem romantic. But taking too long might seem like you're staring into her very soul and can make your girl feel uncomfortable. Avoid overly intense eye contact if you don't want to frighten her.
10. Seeming Rehearsed
While being generally prepared is unquestionably good advice, seeming too rehearsed or polished can make some girls nervous. It will make you seem to be pretending to be someone you are not, which is quite creepy.
So if you want flirting to be spontaneous and fun, instead of creepy and awkward, the best thing you can prepare for is being ready to improvise a little bit.
9. Learning Too Much About Her On Social Media
So you met her and decided to look her up on social media. Everybody does that, right? Sure, maybe. But that doesn't mean a girl wants you to look at every picture she has.
Because while following some of your natural curiosity about a girl you like is normal, too much can be concerning to a girl you're getting to know.
8. Too Much Touching, in the Wrong Places
When done right, touching a girl respectfully conveys a supreme confidence level. But when a guy is overly touchy and disregards personal boundaries, there's probably no faster way to freak a woman out. And this is one of the most creepy things guys do.
So if you're going to touch her, here are 2 quick pieces of advice: Wait for her to touch you first and only after she does. Keep it brief, light, and near the arms or shoulders.
7. Making Overly Dirty Jokes or Comments
Girls like a guy with a good sense of humor. Most of them even find dirty jokes entertaining. But if you are going out with a girl for the first time or in just the getting-to-know-her phase, keep the dirty jokes to yourself. Just in case she's not quite on the same page as you quite yet. It might creep her off and immediately kill any attraction she had for you.
6. Paying Too Much Attention to Just Her Body
Not sure what you could be doing that's creeping her out? It might be the way you look at her body.
Now, if a girl catches you overly checking her out, she might give you a pass the first time. But if you keep getting caught? She may quickly start thinking you're just like the other creepy people she tries to avoid.
5. You Want to Hang Out Too Much, Too Soon
So you like a girl, and that means you probably want to hang out with her all the time. Unfortunately, that's something that may seem harmless but could backfire and turn into her thinking you're a creepy guy if you're not careful.
Because not only can it suggest you don't have enough going on in your own life, but if you're always asking to hang out, it could also make you seem overly obsessive. Just be sure to take things slowly, and play a little hard to get.
4. Being Inconsistent… or Just Flat-Out Lying
Another thing that can easily happen when you're nervously trying to impress a girl is getting caught saying something that could be perceived as a lie.
Maybe you wanted to make a story better, or perhaps you want to seem cooler, but if you end up having to backtrack or clarify something you said, there may be no better way to make her wonder if you're just another dishonest creep.
3. Giving Her Too Many Fake, Superficial Compliments
You think you can't go wrong in giving a compliment, right? Wrong. Not only is showering her with quick, shallow compliments a losing strategy, but (even if you do mean them) too many can make you seem insincere and desperate, both of which are key ingredients to coming across as creepy.
2. Giving Her Heavy Compliments Too Soon
One good intention that can easily land a guy in the creep zone is to come off the wrong way when giving her a truly heartfelt compliment. And that's because there are 3 critical things that, if poorly executed, can turn a heavy compliment from amazingly kind to downright creepy: Timing, context, and delivery.
So, if you want to give her a big compliment, make sure the timing, conversation, and tone are right.
1. Making Her Think You’re a Pick-Up Artist
You might not be one. You might not even know what it is. Still, suppose a girl senses you are only after your sexual interest. In that case, you can pretty much guarantee she'll think you're a creepy man because there's one thing all creeps have in common and that a lot of PUAs do: Making a girl feel like nothing more than an object and not another person.
The 1 Simple Thing to Remember that Will Solve 99% of Your Accidental Creepiness
If you're just a normal guy who may sometimes come across as a little awkward, it's probably because you forget to do this one incredibly simple thing: And that's just to be yourself.
We know you've heard it before, but it bears repeating because it's so important. Because you might be strange and unusual, but if you just be yourself, you'll never creep out another girl just because you were a little awkward.
Signs That Women Is Already Uncomfortable With Your Actions
If you still don't know that your actions are already creeping her out, watch out for the signs. They may be subtle, but you can easily tell that your actions are turn-offs for women. Then maybe you can still save that flirting session and make it last.
1. Her behavior changed towards you when you were together.
This is one of the signs she doesn't like you. One minute she's comfortable being with you, then she just pulls away from the next. Rethink your actions and figure out why the sudden change of heart.
2. She tends to avoid being alone with you.
If you see her not comfortable enough to be alone with you, you might have done something that creeped her out. Maybe it has something to do with you being too touchy or making her feel unsafe.
3. She began blowing plans you made together.
Planned going to the movies or an out-of-town trip with your girl, suddenly she's a no-show? She's not just tripping. You have to go back to the list of things you might have done that made her blow your plans together.
4. She is using that flat tone of voice when she talks to you.
Notice the words she uses when talking to you. One-word answers are red flags you should never take for granted.
How to Turn Her Dislike Around
Instead of asking yourself what you like, try asking yourself what do girls like. You might be focusing on yourself and forgetting that flirting is a two-way street.
Here's how to turn things around when you're coming off as creepy:
Give her space.
Don't suffocate her by bombarding her with texts and requests to spend time together. Let her have some space away from you.
Self-reflect on what went wrong.
You might find yourself thinking of what's wrong with her that you forget to reflect on what you could have done to drive her away.
Sincerely apologize to her.
Once you figure out why she suddenly feels uncomfortable being around you, it's time for a sincere apology. No need to put your ego ahead.
Be courteous to her even if you feel that she hates you.
There's no need to point fingers and hate if she doesn't like you. If she still doesn't want to be with you after you apologized, respect her decision.
If everything else fails, walk away.
Walk away. Now that you know why she got turned off, you are less likely to do it again to other girls.
Tips On How To Understand What A Girl Likes In A Guy
People keep on insisting women are hard to understand. But once you get to know them, it's pretty simple. You should know that the key to understanding women is communicating with them. Don't assume that just because she didn't say anything about something you've done, she's okay with it. This way, you'll have an idea of what women want in a man and act towards it instead of assuming you know them better than they know themselves.
Frequently Asked Questions
No one wants to be around someone who has creepy behavior. These are some common questions to guide you, so you don't act all creepy around women.
Are attractive men labeled as "creepy" by women?
Yes. Being attractive does not give you the right to act creepily towards a girl and get away with it. A creep is a creep. Period.
How can you tell if you are a creepy male?
When a girl suddenly becomes uncomfortable being around you, that's a hint you are a creepy person. She would suddenly consider not showing up to gatherings knowing that you'd be there despite making plans to go ahead.
Do you find attractive guys "cute and romantic" when an ugly guy doing the same thing is "creepy"?
No. Often, being good-looking and presenting yourself in a good manner can mask your creepiness, but being attractive is not an assurance that women won't see it behind a perfectly chiseled face.
What are some creepy things a guy does that are considered normal if you're female?
Becoming suddenly touchy towards a woman can be creepy. But for women, touch is a form of communication. According to studies, women can detect emotions through touch. But for men, when your hand starts wandering off, this can creep out girls.
How can a guy tell a girl that he has a crush on her without freaking her out?
Knowing how to approach a girl will help you reveal your feelings to her without freaking her out. Wait for the right moment, plan what you want to say, and be confident.
Those are the 11 creepy things guys do when flirting and the 1 thing that could keep it from happening to you forever.
If you are worried you are turning into one of those creepy men women try to avoid, the good news is that you can always turn things around.