If you've never been out with anyone, you probably don't know how to make out with a girl or how to get a girlfriend. It is not as simple as going up to someone and asking them to make out; you have to understand how to build up to the moment.
Don't have any idea how to kiss a girl? Well, this article's got you covered, from how to get a girl to kiss you to tips for the ultimate makeout session. As a dating coach with articles featured on Outwit Trade and UP Journey, I know my way around stuff like this.
If you haven't done it yet, then read on!
How To Make Out With A Girl: 4 Steps
I know... You're nervous and wondering how to make out with a girl. But you shouldn't be! Because even if you're a bad kisser, improvement is only a handful of steps away!
All it takes is a little practice and understanding of how kissing works, and in no time, you'll wonder why you ever worried about it in the first place.
1. Kiss her for the first time
If you haven't read how to kiss a girl for the first time or haven't done it before, you may be busting up your nerves just thinking about it.
To initiate the first kiss, aside from making sure to have fresh breath, you should read the room and be able to tell one's body language.
Here's what I mean...
1. Plan Your Setting
2. Give Hints With Your Body
Now that your bodies are closer, you should use it to initiate the kiss.
3. Enjoy The Moment
Nothing turn's off a woman than some awkward kissing. Learn to relax and enjoy the moment. A good kiss comes naturally and not as if it was forced.
Of course, none of this should be attempted if her body language tells you she's not interested. And it's okay if that's the case! Because even if this girl doesn't want to kiss you, there are plenty more out there who might!
2. Know These Make-Out Kissing Tips
Making out isn't simply opening and closing your mouth like a fish out of water, gasping for its last breath (but you do need to open your mouth.) It's more refined than that. And if you haven't kissed a girl before, then a kissing tip is all you need for that ultimate make out session.
Here are some kissing tips to keep in mind:
1. Pucker your lips
A very slight pucker is all you need to make her feel like she's kissing a person with nice, juicy lips instead of a wall with teeth.
2. Tilt your head
Don't tilt at a 90° angle. It makes you look like you're something out of a horror film. A little less than 45° is good enough to avoid smashing noses.
3. Open your mouth slightly.
As you move in, slightly open your mouth right before your lips touch hers. I like to compare it to eating an ice cream cone. You want to avoid using your teeth and use your lips if you're going to be a good kisser. Teeth clashing during a kiss is unpleasant.
4. Breathe through your nose.
Do not breathe your mouth. Kisses shouldn't taste like what you had for dinner, and breathing through your nose during a makeout session will ensure that doesn't happen. For further breath protection, exhale when your mouths are closed on each other.
5. Try French kissing (unless she's not up to it)
I prefer a kiss with tongue. Some people don't, or they don't know how to use this kissing style. No problem, follow her lead because if only one person is using their tongue, the kiss simply doesn't feel right. And remember: The deeper the tongue goes, the more passionate the kiss.
6. Pause for a while.
After a few kisses, come up for air, look her in the eyes, and smile/laugh. This gives the two of you a break to decide whether or not you should keep going. Be sure to say something sweet or comment on how the kiss was. The goal is to get her to kiss you more.
7. Do it again.
Repeat if she's into it. If all goes well, she'll want to do it again. Go in for another round if you're both feeling it. Have fun!
3. Get Her To Make Out With You
When you're on a date, you should constantly be checking the atmosphere. You have to bring your A-Game and be entertaining and fun to hang out with.Is she laughing at your jokes? Making physical contact? Is the conversation moving naturally? These are all good signs that you should kiss her. She's not going to want to kiss you if your girl's not having a good time with you.
But you don't want to make her feel like you are just performing to get her to kiss you. Keep a conversation moving by being natural when talking to her.
Also, keep in mind that girls like decent guys who know how to respect some boundaries. But learn to weigh the situation. Sometimes, if you're being too nice, you might miss a girl's subtle hints that she wants to make out.
4. Find the Perfect Moment to Strike
Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, try finding the best moment to strike. Don't wait for that rom-com movie moment where everything slows down and everyone cheers. You'll hold back until you completely miss out on kissing her.
You have to be confident when you find the perfect moment. One where the conversation lulls and (for example) you're leaning over a railing, looking out over the city when you turn towards her, look her straight in the eyes, and BAM! You're kissing her.
You have to actively steer the date in the direction of a makeout session. If the date is going well, it usually happens naturally, but it still requires some effort.
Keeping the girl engaged and interested makes her want to kiss you. You have to make the first move.
How To Make Out With A Girl On The First Date
First kisses are interesting because you don't know what you're going to get from one until your lips are locked. Most guys don't even know how to kiss on the first date.
Some people jump straight into making out when the smooches start, while others are more reserved about it and don't open their mouths too much.
Because of this, a kiss on the first date is always a surprise (and one that you should embrace no matter which path she ends up taking.)
So how do I start making out with a girl? Well, if I'm on a first date and I find myself kissing the girl, I test the waters and see if she wants to make out.
See, the normal kissing technique is closed-mouthed, while making out involves opening and closing your mouth, right?
So I open my mouth and see if she does the same. It's that easy.
If she doesn't, I just cut my losses and move on with the date. She might come around and want to make out down the line, but I'm in no rush.
Maybe you're already making a move with a potential partner, so make it clear that you know her boundaries. And making that clearly shows a girl you respect her, which will only make her want you more.
Frequently Asked Questions
It may be difficult to tell if a girl is ready to make out with you. And it can get awkward when you're into it and she isn't. Here are a couple of answers to some questions to clear your head of worries.
Are there signs to watch out for if a girl agrees to make out with you?
Yes, there are. Observe her actions around you. One sign is when she gets her face close to you. Another one is how she locks eyes with you. Eye contact is a sure indicator to know if a girl's into you. If you want to know more about this, read our article on signs a girl wants you to kiss her.
What is the right way to ask a girl if she wants to make out with me or not?
If you're not sure what her body language conveys, it's time to ask her politely. At first, you can tell her that you'd want a kiss. Then ask if she feels the same way or if she would let you kiss her. Don't assume she would like to make out just because the moment is perfect.
How many dates should I wait before I make out with a girl?
Try to get the feel of the room. Some men go for the kiss on the first date. This is okay if there's strong chemistry and both of you are into it. Kissing is an intimate activity not everyone is open to doing on the first date. If both of you are unsure, then you can hold on to the thought of kissing her until there's an attraction with each other or her body language tells you to do so.
How do you get a girl to kiss you instead of going for the make out?
If you want her to make the first move, then there are ways to get her to do just that. First is, you have to be ready to be kissed. This means you should look good and tidy. You can also drop some hints that you want to be kissed. This could be through touching, eye contact, or giving her compliments.
More Tips On How To Get The Girl
It would be best if you learned a lot about making out with a girl and doing it before a girl makes out with you. But we can help with that:
- Knowing how to talk to girls is the most important skill if you want them to make out with you.
- Struggling with flirting? It takes practice and reading about how to flirt with a girl.
- When you're ready to get to know her a little better, you have to know how to ask a girl out.
- She won't make out with you if she doesn't like you. We can help you figure out how to get a girl to like you.
So there you have it. Hopefully, you've learned a little bit about how to make out with a girl and are ready to get out there and make out with them all.
Just be sure they're into it as much as you.