Are you asking yourself, "Why don't women like me?"

If you're wondering why she turns away, I've got the answers and can tell you the main turn offs for women. I'm the main writer for our MantelligenceDating YouTube channel, and I've written countless articles about how to attract women. So I know highly effective techniques to help guys get the girl.

You ready? Let's go.


Why Are the Girls Not Into Me? - 8 Honest Reasons She's Not Into You

Part of understanding women better is learning why they may not like you and why you might not be successful in pushing your relationship to the next level. Knowing these things is important for you to have a chance to turn things around.

Reason #1:  You are being too nice.

If you're a person with nice guy syndrome, you're probably stuck in the friendzone. While being friendly is a good thing, an attractive woman isn't just looking for someone that's nice to her. This doesn't mean she wants a bad boy either. She's simply looking for a reliable guy who doesn't just stand back and goes after what he wants.

Reason #2: You talk too much.

Have you noticed you dominate the conversation? A guy that's only interested in himself is a huge turn-off. Why not ask her questions? It's a good thing to get her talking about herself. The topic can be about anything, from her high school days to her opinion of Halle Bailey sporting red hair. The point here is to get her talking and you listening because a woman likes a man that listens to what she has to say.

Reason #3:  You simply don't take care of yourself.

A guy with a poor sense of hygiene is unattractive to women. You should start putting effort into yourself and learn how to be a more attractive guy. No Disney princess wants to be with someone who has Shrek-like hygiene.

Reason #4: You're living an uninspiring lifestyle.

Unattractive things guys don't know they do includes choosing entertainment over development. They end up lazing around all day rather than making an effort to invest in themselves. Get an interesting hobby, join a book club, or be more active. Learn how to focus better because it can help you improve your lifestyle.

Reason #5: You seem too aggressive for her.

Being too aggressive means you're crossing boundaries and making her uncomfortable. You might scare her off. This could be anything from just having met on a dating app and pushing for a first date right off the bat or not reading her body language or social cues when you're together and invading her personal space.

Reason #6: You have poor communication skills.

You might be asking, "Do girls like shy guys?" but the issue isn't about a guy being shy, but how they communicate. Shy men are frequently praised for their excellent listening skills, which girls value. However, a lack of communication skills can create an awkward exchange where girls don't see you as someone likable. You'll have problems showing affection and how you actually feel for her.

Reason # 7: You show a negative attitude.

Some great dating advice: don't be so negative. Nothing worse than hanging out with someone and all they do is complain or focus on all the bad things.

Reason #8: You act desperate.

If you're constantly seeking her validation, always telling her you miss her, and act obsessed, you're likely freaking the girl out. A guy acting desperate can make a girl feel overwhelmed, nervous, or scared. Have confidence in the relationship you share and give the woman some space.

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7 Signs a Girl is Not Interested in You

Spotting the signs a girl doesn't like you is a matter of being observant and reading the signals the girl gives.

Sign #1: She keeps reinforcing that you're just friends.

Don't make the girl have to constantly remind you that you're just friends. If she's doing so, she's probably sensing you want to take your relationship to the next level, so she's telling you in a nice way that she's not interested. Take the hint.

Sign #2: She replies too late to your texts or doesn't reply at all.

When a woman is interested in a guy, she'll constantly check her phone to see if you've messaged or tried to call her. She might even stalk you on social media to see what you're up to. So, if you've messaged her a few times and she didn't text back after sufficient time, it's clear she's not interested in you.

Sign #3: She keeps on avoiding you.

You don't need relationship advice to know that if a person is avoiding you, it's obviously a bad sign. Yes, she might have a busy schedule, but if it's excuse after excuse, she's the wrong girl for you.

Sign #4: She tells you directly and indirectly that she is not interested.

If she's told you directly that she's not interested, don't be that guy who keeps pushing. Indirectly telling you she's not interested could be her talking about a person she is interested in and asking for your input or asking you personal information about a mutual male friend she hints she has a thing for.

Sign #5: She goes out with other guys.

If you're making up excuses when she goes out with other guys, stop. Don't keep telling yourself that they're just her friends. She's not a little girl anymore. Clearly, she's not interested in you because she's interested in other people.

Sign #6: She doesn't introduce you to her friends.

If she's the right girl for you and is happy to take things further, she'll introduce you to her friends because this shows she values your relationship. However, if she doesn't, she probably thinks it's best to keep things low-key since she's not interested in you in that way.

Sign #7: She won't share anything about herself.

People love sharing everything about themselves, especially with the people they like. When she trusts you and wants to build a deeper, more intimate relationship, she'll talk about everything. She'll tell you about her childhood crush on Brad Pitt and how she had always wanted to be the Little Mermaid. If she's not sharing these things with you, she's not into you.

What Do Women Want in a Man

If you're wondering what do girls like in a man and what they want, it's more simple than you might think. What women want in a man is true love, a real connection, and security. They want confidence in their relationship.

According to Psychology Today, women look for partners the same way they do friends. And from their romantic interests, they want integrity, sensitivity, and intimacy.

She's Not Into Me, Now What? - Things To Do To Break That Impression

Need to know how to get out of friendzone? Don't worry; some people still find love and success even after being placed in the zone. If she's showing mixed signs, there's hope!

1. Make eye contact when you communicate.

This may seem an odd piece of advice, but we've got a lot of related posts that talk about the importance of eye contact when you're having a conversation. It helps you focus on the discussion, so she knows you're listening, and it also helps to grow intimacy.

2. Listen to her problems and be there for her.

The woman needs to know you're someone she can vent her problems to. She needs someone that can support her when she needs it, someone she can rely on. Show her you'll always be there for her no matter what.

3. Teach her something new.

A girl would love it if you could teach her something new. Doing this also creates an opportunity for intimacy and one on one time. If she's asked you how to do something, even better because it gives you a moment to shine and show off your skills.

4. Have confidence.

Women love a confident man because confidence is sexy. Impress her by showing her you have a backbone and that you are self-reliant.

5. Show romantic interest.

Perhaps a lot of the push and pull between you is simply you giving her mixed messages. If she's not sure about how you feel about her, she's not going to show interest in you.

6. Do more things together.

Give yourself as much opportunity as possible for her to see you in a good light. And the only way you can do that is by doing more things together. You can join a secret book club if reading is something you have in common, or look for other activities you'll both enjoy.

7. Reminisce and exchange personal stories.

Create a deeper connection by communicating and sharing your past with her. Let her share her stories too. Before you know it, you'll laugh from funny memories and reveal secrets about what you were like when you were younger, trying to chase teenage girls.

Frequently Asked Questions

Read the answers to the most frequently asked questions to better understand why girls may not like you.

When should you just give up on having feelings for a girl?

When you believe you have done all you can to be with her. If you can no longer see the two of you ending up together, or when she enters into a romantic relationship with another person, give up.

Do girls always look for physical attributes first before showing attention to a guy?

This is a misconception. While attraction is definitely important, the most significant factor for women to show interest in a man is the connection they feel.

Why does it hurt so much to pursue someone, only to learn they don't like me?

Because you're likely unable to accept the truth that the girl you've had your heart set on is not the one for you. Rejection can be painful. Just make sure you're not too hard on yourself. Not everyone is compatible.

Is it true that girls don't like nice guys?

Nice guys finish last because they don't always go for what they want. They hold back, allowing another guy to sweep in. Girls don't dislike nice guys, but she's looking for other qualities that make him stand out. If you're a nice guy who stands back, she's not going to see the good qualities you have.

More Interesting Articles To Explore

If you're trying to pursue a girl and feel like you're not really getting anywhere, here are some related articles to help you out:

  1. Knowing how to impress women is the first step to making a good and lasting impression.
  2. You should learn how to be confident around girls because it's an attractive trait that they'll love about it. It will help you stand out in a crowd.
  3. You might have the talking skills, but do you know how to approach a girl?


Now that you know the answers to the dreaded question, "Why aren't girls attracter to me?" you're better equipped to turn things around. Try and understand why she turns away and what the turn-offs for women are.