Robin Sutherns | Sep 16, 2021 | 0
57 Good Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text - Make Great Conversations
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This list of questions to ask a girl over text is just what you need.
I have written countless blogs about questions to ask a girl, so if you want to know how to text a girl you like, you're in luck. This list has all the best questions to ask to keep a good talk interesting. Trust me.
Let's dive right in!
7 Conversation Starters For Her Online
Most of the time, it seems like finding the right way to start a text message exchange can be the hardest part. If you're already in a relationship, conversation starters for couples can focus on what you already know about each other – but what if you've only just met the woman you're thinking about texting?
Here's the deal: If you've only recently got a girl's number, your conversation starters have to take a different tone. After you've said a friendly hello, start with easy questions with the widest variety of possible answers.
Here are 7 conversation starters to ask a girl over text:
1. What's the best thing that's happened to you today?
Keep it positive! Instead of asking, "how's your day?", lead the discussion in a better direction right from the start. This is a good question to ask when you want to make a good day a better one. This is also the right question to ask after a date because you're ending it on a good note by reminding her of the good things that happened that day.
2. What kinds of things really make you laugh?
Even just thinking about funny things puts her in a better mood, which starts the chat warmly and positively. This is a fun question to ask because you'll know about her sense of humor and if you laugh at the same things she does. Who knows? It may even be the start of true love.
3. What's your favorite place in the entire world?
This is one of the cute ways to hint at asking her out. Use this conversation starter to start planning where you might be able to meet up together later. If she says her favorite place in Italy, well, then maybe it's time to plan a good old romantic gesture and surprise her. It might be the craziest thing, but if you pull it off, good for you!
4. Favorite movie of all time?
Remember that movie you just couldn't get enough of as a kid? Bring back those nostalgic memories by starting an exchange with this question. It's always an interesting conversation when you talk about a favorite thing or a favorite memory. It lets you get to know the other person more.
5. What’s your biggest goal in life right now?
This opens the door to talking about similarities between things you're working on in your lives. This is a great question to ask when you want to know if she's a good fit for your future. Often, a romantic relationship doesn't work out because a couple doesn't talk about their goals. When what they want doesn't match, it creates problems. Avoid that by asking this early on.
6. What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?
I know some people hate small talk, but this might actually help you plan a good date for her. Planning ahead to the weekend gives you time to prepare for the things she likes. It also builds excitement for the date, so make sure to live up to the hype.
7. What kind of music do you listen to?
Look for shared passions in music or an opportunity to share new music with each other down the road. It's actually an interesting question to ask because learning about someone's taste in music lets you peek into their mind. What kind of artists does she like, and what kind of music do they make? Knowing these helps you get to know her better.
8 Topics To Talk With Her Through Messages
Unsplash / Vladimir FedotovThese questions are our go-to favorites. If you're ever at a loss as to how to continue texting a girl, choose one of these to inject new life into the conversation.
Here are 8 of the best questions to ask a girl over text:
8. What kind of trouble are you getting into today?
Playful and cheeky, this text leaves it up to her to imagine what you mean by "trouble." A flirty text like this can be the start of a fun conversation between you two. Keep it going with more flirty questions, and who knows? Maybe she'll be getting in trouble with you next time.
9. If you could travel the world, where would you go?
This may seem like a random question, but whatever her answer is, you can easily build on it by asking what interests her about that place. Share your travel goals and see if you have the same ones. You might even end up making plans to go there together.
10. When was the last time you got into trouble?
The subtext of this text asks whether she's willing to take risks (even if she gets caught!). Plus, you'll get to know how much of a rebel she is. You'll know if she's spontaneous and courageous enough to actually get in trouble.
11. What's the most perfect dipping sauce?
Rick and Morty know the importance of the perfect dipping sauce... Does she? This may be a random question, but it's good to ask for future reference. Once you know this, the next time you get some fries for her, you'll know to get her mayo instead of ketchup.
12. If a genie appeared to grant you one wish, what would you wish for?
What does she want most in her life right now, and how does that relate to you? If she answers that her wish is to be your girlfriend, that certainly is the biggest turn of events ever. If it's not that profound, maybe she'll just wish for her celebrity crush to take her out on a date. Either way, it makes a great conversation starter.
13. If you could be any animal, which would you choose to be? Why?
Her answer will reveal how she thinks of herself, giving you more info on how to make a connection with her. She'll definitely ask you this back, so be prepared with a witty answer to keep the talk going. Don't go with the usual. Think of rare animals like a panther or a stingray. I don't know what kind of conversation this will lead to, but it's going to be an interesting one.
14. What sport would you never want to play?
Even if your dream girl is amazing at a lot of things, she's always going to have weaknesses. Knowing a girl's limits can help you understand what's most appropriate to talk about. You can also ask her the reason for not wanting to play that particular sport.
15. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?
Her choice will reveal something about what she would most like to change about herself right now. Ask her what she will first do with the superpower she chose. If she wanted to fly, ask where she'd go. If she wanted to have super strength, ask what she'd try to lift first. When she asks you what superpower you want to have, say that you want the ability to have super speed so you can be there for her whenever she needs you. If that doesn't make her smile, I don't know what will.
16. What is something that is popular now that annoys you?
You can bond over mutual annoyances with this text. Get her talking about all the overrated and overhyped trends the kids are doing nowadays. Share your pet peeves as well, and see if she hates the same things you do. She'll feel comfortable sharing her thoughts with you if she knows you like listening to her rant about stupid things.
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Here are 7 flirty questions to ask a girl over text:
17. If you could be invisible for the day, what's the first thing you would do?
The subtext of this asks: "What would you do if you could get away with it?" It says a lot about her when she'd do something illegal or downright disturbing. But, it wouldn't be the worst thing to know what things she would do if she could get away with it.
18. Have you ever been caught doing something you weren't supposed to?
If she answers "yes," she may not want to tell you what – making for a fun guessing game of trying to figure it out. A flirty question like this invites a follow-up question of: "Would you do it again with me?" Try it out, and let's see what kind of response she gives.
19. When was the last time you did something outside of your comfort zone?
This might be one of my favorites because it lets you gauge where you're at as far as her comfort levels go. Sometimes, conquering your biggest fear starts with taking steps outside your comfort zone. Get her talking about her little wins and praise her for them.
20. Ever been in love with two people at the same time?
It carries a powerful subtext: What has her love life been like? Find out what she did to resolve her feelings. If it involved letting one person go, ask how she did it. You'll see how she values people who value her and how she makes decisions.
21. Have you ever broken someone's heart?
You'll find out whether she has a little bit of "bad girl" in her with this personal question. You can also ask her how she felt about it and if it's something she still thinks about to this day. You can even ask her why she felt the need to break that person's heart. That way, you can avoid doing the same thing.
22. Can you wiggle your nose or your ears?
This is a cute question to ask since she'll automatically laugh when you ask. Strictly because it's cute, and she'll probably have to try and do it (for you). Pair it with a comment like, "I know it's supposed to be funny, but you just look so cute when you try." You won't see it, but her heart will do a little flutter, I guarantee it.
23. What do you think of tattoos? Do you have any?
This is a sly way of asking her about her body without it being obviously sexual. Dirty questions only become dirty if you're creepy. So, ask her respectfully and don't pressure her to answer if she doesn't want to. If she does respond, make sure that she's comfortable talking about it. If she looks a little queasy, change the subject and find another topic that she's okay with.
6 Funny Things To Tell The Woman You Like
Mark Twain once said that "humor is mankind's greatest blessing." Having a good selection of funny questions to ask can instantly brighten an otherwise dreary day.
Being willing to put yourself out there and try to make someone laugh is a huge sign of confidence and a big turn-on for women. Equipping yourself with a few funny questions to ask is a sure way to keep your chat going smoothly.
Here are 6 funny questions to ask a girl:
24. If you had to make out with a friend of the same sex to save the world from aliens, whom would you pick?
This is a funny but high-risk question. Save this one for when the talking is already going very well. Ask carefully because she may think this is the weirdest thing she has ever been asked. You can even share your pick to make her feel comfortable about sharing hers.
25. Who would you want to be tied to for 24 hours?
And how would you want to be tied? The funny (and flirtatious) scenarios you can make up out of this are nearly endless. You can even act it out as if you're tied to each other. Say things like, "If we never get out of this, I want you to know that your dog peed on me the other day, and I never said anything." If that doesn't make her laugh, I don't know what will.
26. Do one-legged ducks swim in circles?
If the conversation is getting a little boring, you should try this one out. There's still a place for good one-liners and rhetorical jokes, too! You could never go wrong with a good old funny question. Try asking this in a serious face and see if she can answer without laughing.
27. Would you consider yourself obsessed with anything/anyone?
Does she have a collection of Pusheen stuffed animals? A complete Pokedex? No matter what it is, you can kind-heartedly poke fun at her obsession. A guilty pleasure here and there never hurt anyone, so make sure not to make fun of her too much. Do it just enough to keep the texting going.
28. Do you like to sing in the shower or the car when no one is around?
Follow-up: What do you sing? Find out her favorite song to sing when she's alone. Bonus points if you can get her to voice-record it! The next time you get into a car with her, play a great dance tune and turn that volume up. And don't forget to sing along with her!
29. Do you still wear a piece of clothing you wore during your childhood?
Like Linus's comfort blanket, there's something inherently funny about juvenile habits. Plus, if she does have something like this from her childhood, getting her to talk about this will open up a good conversation. You can also show up in a small t-shirt you've had since you were a boy to make her laugh.
7 Conversation Lines That Will Help You Know Her Better
By knowing the right questions to ask to get to know a girl, you open the door for building more comfort and connection. With a good introduction, and after a little bit of funny and flirty conversation, you can begin to build the comfort that will lead to a face-to-face date.
Essentially, all of these get to know you questions are made with a goal in mind of learning her preferences, positive and negative, so that you can better plan what sort of activities you can do together.
Here are seven great questions to ask a girl over text to get to know her:
30. Which bad habits of people drive you crazy?
Getting to know a woman means asking what she likes and what she dislikes. You can also ask her why those particular habits get her all worked up. It will give you an advantage because you'll know the things to do and the things to avoid.
31. Who was the last person you hugged?
Don't let a non-consensual hug be your biggest regret. Some girls are huggers, and some aren't – either way, it's important to know for the next time you see her. Make sure she's always comfortable with you. That's the only way she'll keep entertaining your company.
32. How would you change the world if you were to play God for a day?
Learn what she's passionate about with this question. Does she want to change any laws? Does she want to change how countries are divided? Whatever it may be, make sure to keep an open mind and really discuss this with her. It may be the start of a deep conversation, especially when she starts talking about what she's passionate about.
33. If you had to eat 1 thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
You are what you eat - meaning that the type of food a woman chooses says a lot about her personality. A person's favorite food may be as simple as bread or mashed potato. But, if you had to eat it every day for the rest of your life, would it still be your favorite? Probably not.
34. Name three things you have never done and don't want to do?
To really get to know her, it's important to know her preferences and her limitations. You can also ask her why she's never done those things. She'll most probably talk about her childhood or her past experiences. These will certainly help you get to know her better.
35. What are the 3 most important things in a kitchen and why?
Because let's face it: Anyone who knows their way around a kitchen instantly becomes more attractive. And anyone who can make a great meal is a godsend. Find out if she's got what it takes to be a master around the kitchen.
36. What are you allergic to?
Maybe not the most creative question, but it is essential to know if you plan to ask her out to eat. It's also good to know this so that when you plan to make her some dinner, you'll know what things to avoid. You don't want to end your date in the emergency room, right?
7 Worthy Things To Talk About With Your Girlfriend
So what happens to texting once you're in a relationship?
Well, to tell you the truth... a lot of guys make a big mistake. They stop texting their girlfriend like they did when they were first getting to know each other, and that makes text conversations go stale.
You know what, though? I don't think you're that type of guy. So let's keep finding exciting and worthwhile questions to ask a girlfriend over text, whether you've been dating for 2 months or 2 years.
Here are 7 questions to ask your girlfriend over text:
37. Tell me the truth…how many selfies do you have on your phone?
Being lighthearted and playful with texts like this helps to keep that spark in your relationship. She might be a little embarrassed at first. But sometimes, you just have to share some embarrassing stuff about you so she'll feel comfortable opening up to you.
38. What is (or was) your least favorite class/teacher?
It's just as important to know what your girlfriend dislikes as it is to know what she likes. Ask her why she didn't like that class or teacher and what she would have changed about them. Often, people know how to complain but not how to solve what they're complaining about. See if she's one of those people.
39. What do you do when you're bored?
Up next: Invite her to text you funny pictures when she's bored! Or, do one better and send her funny memes when you know she's having an uneventful day. You might just be what turns her boring day into a memorable one. It's always good to make your girlfriend smile, even if it's just through a text message.
40. If you find 100$ on the floor right now, what would you do with it?
It's not winning the lottery, and that's a good thing: this gives you an attainable goal of something that would make her happier. To keep the conversation going, tell her that if that happened to you, you'd be taking her out on a fancy date.
41. Do you think you could give up technology for a week?
Because how often do you get to spend time together without being on your phones or computers? You could even turn this into one of the best dare questions ever. Challenge her to do this with you and see who can't resist being on their phone.
42. What's the most played song on your iPod?
Knowing what your girlfriend listens to in the privacy of her headphones is a special sort of intimacy. If she tells you, try listening to it to get a feel of what she likes. If this is the most played song, it's probably one that gets her feeling calm or relaxed.
43. What's the lamest joke you've ever heard?
I always say no joke is too lame when you can deliver it well. Ask her to bring out her best dad jokes! All the better if this starts an awful joke text contest between you. It will get her laughing and smiling, too. She might even tell her friends about it because of how much she enjoyed it with you. Win-win!
7 Personal Things To Talk About With Her
It's surprisingly easy to make a text conversation more personal. You just have to have the right personal questions to ask.
We've compiled a list of personal questions to ask a girl that work great over text.
Below you'll find the best of them.
Here are 7 personal questions to ask a girl over text:
43. What is the best/worst/embarrassing/weirdest text message you've received?
She probably has a hilarious screenshot of it. Let her tell you what she felt when she received it and ask how fast she sent it to her friends. Be wary if she mentions a text you've sent. Her friends might have already stalked you way too much on your socials if she's already sent them a screenshot of your weird text.
44. Have you ever dropped a phone in the toilet?
Not exactly a romantic question, but it's good enough to keep a conversation going. If your phone gets wet, they say to place it in rice. It might absorb the moisture. Also, don't plug it in immediately after it dries up in the rice. Wait another couple of hours before you do to make sure that it doesn't electrocute you.
45. Which app do you suggest I install on my phone?
We all have our favorite apps that not all people know of. Some of them may be for food deliveries, games, and anything that may interest her. There are millions of apps out there you haven't heard of. I recommend ours.
46. What is the best selfie you've taken with your phone? Send it to me.
She won't send you photos if you don't ask. Don't be creepy, though! If she shows any form of discomfort at all, immediately tell her that it's fine if she doesn't want to send you photos. Gentlemen, be respectful even when you're trying to poke fun or keep a conversation going. It's important that she feels safe with you.
47. What is the current wallpaper on your phone?
If it's something artsy, you can get an idea of her aesthetic. If you're at that point, you can even try matching wallpapers with her. Some couples have matching shirts or shoes, but try this out first if you want to start with something small.
48. What was your last watched YouTube video? Send it to me.
You can spend hours sending silly videos back and forth. It's hilarious and tons of fun. Plus, it gives you something to talk about that you're sure she's interested in. Otherwise, she wouldn't have watched it.
49. What is the first thing you do with your phone after you wake up in the morning?
This opens up the topic of morning routines. Find out the things she prioritizes in the morning. She'll probably check emails or messages first to see if anything from work popped up. Or, if she's the type to work only during her time of duty, she'll probably scroll through her social media first. Either way, you'll know more about her when you find out the first things she checks when she wakes up.
8 Personal and Deep Topics To Talk About With a Woman Through Messages
It's like this: Whether it's a woman that you've just met or your girlfriend that you've been seeing for a while, you always need to be learning more deeply about them.
By removing the necessity for an immediate response, having a few deep questions to ask over text can lessen the tension of being put "on the spot." This gives her more time to come up with a thoughtful answer. How much you share is up to you, but it's essential to test the waters.
Here are 8 personal and deep questions to ask a girl or girlfriend over text:
50. If you choose any 3 people to be stranded on a desert island with, who would you choose and why?
The people we choose to spend time around deeply influence who we become. This question will let you know who she is most deeply influenced by. If she chooses you, then sit down and relax. You're doing a good job as her boyfriend.
51. If you were guaranteed honest responses to three questions, whom would you question, and what would you ask?
Is there anyone in her life who she hasn't been able to trust? This will tell you what it is that she questions most deeply in her own life. If she says she'd like to ask you something, be the bigger man and don't make an issue about it. Tell her frankly that she doesn't need to include you because you'll tell her the truth every time.
52. If you were walking through the forest and you suddenly saw a tiger, what would you do?
Run, freeze, or fight – whichever route she chooses says a lot about how she reacts to life's stresses. Her answer will also help guide you when it comes to solving her problems. Follow it up with, "If you run or freeze, would you like me to fight for you?" Sometimes, women don't want to feel helpless, so asking them what you can do for them is important to do.
53. Who had the biggest impact on the person you have become?
Mentors are critical to our growth – who has helped her become who she is today? Ask her how they have made that kind of impact on her. When you find out what they did, it will help guide you on making a significant impact on her life.
54. Do you think the future will be better than the present? Why?
This question asks her whether she thinks her own life will get better, as well. To steer the conversation into your future together, follow it up with a comment like, "I am certain the future will be better than the present because I know we'll still be together."
55. What lies do you most often tell yourself?
Everyone deceives themselves to a certain degree, but being aware of this is what helps us grow. Is she aware of her own little lies? Also, we sometimes tell lies to ourselves because we're afraid to face reality. Asking this question may help her realize the lies she tells herself and try to avoid them from now on.
56. What are the most common roadblocks that stop people from achieving their dreams?
Sharing your goals and dreams and what is preventing you from them helps develop a closer and deeper relationship. Talking about this will also help you steer clear of the roadblocks to reaching your goals.
57. What keeps you up at night?
Sharing her worries will let her open up more intimately with you. Plus, when she answers this honestly, you'll know that she's good at sharing her weaknesses with you. It's a good thing to know because you'll be able to ask her even more personal questions without hesitating.
How to Start a Conversation with a Girl Over Text
Here are four powerful tips for how to start a conversation with a girl over text:
1. Greet Her Warmly and Politely
Before you start asking a girl questions over text, say "hello" in whatever polite way you'd like. Not only does this show that you have manners, but it also lets you know that she is actively on her phone when you receive a message from her. This way, she will see your message and be more likely to continue the conversation with you when you ask your question.
2. Have a Goal in Mind
What is it that you're looking for out of the conversation? If you start with a goal in mind, then you can plan ahead for how to continue the conversation.
Whether you're looking to build her interest in you or ask her out on a date with you this weekend, having a clear idea of what you're looking for will help you plan how to get there.
3. Ask Questions That Make Her Think
While "how is your day?" may look good on paper, it's not specific enough to develop an ongoing conversation. Basically, if she can answer the question without thinking, she is less likely to be interested enough to keep texting.
So here's the deal: Asking her questions that make her think will capture her interest. And you want to be interesting to her, right? This article has great tips from her on how to keep a conversation going.
4. Gauge the Tone of the Conversation
Look for signs that she's interested and engaged, like longer responses or happy emoticons, before trying to move on to new questions in your conversation, and that's how to start a conversation with a girl over text.
Downloadable and Printable List of Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text
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Looking for More Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text?
With all of these questions at your disposal, you should be totally set to start texting any woman that you're interested in getting to know better. If you've used some of these successfully and are looking for more, we've got you covered:
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Now, you're all set with the best questions to ask a girl over text. You won't have to wonder how to text a girl you like. With all these great questions to ask, it's time to pick up your phone and text the girl that you haven't known how to talk to yet!
These exciting and engaging questions to ask a girl will get you half of the way there. The other half is up to you and your unique personality, so don't be afraid to adjust and improvise these questions as well!