In this article, I'll be giving a rundown of the best questions for your girlfriend.

Good questions often spark great conversations. In my years as a dating expert, I've given countless tips to help men make better connections- from questions during first dates to popping the big question.

If you want to keep your conversations fun and interesting, you got to have the right list of queries for your girl, and this list of things to ask is your best bet.

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20 Interesting Things to Ask your Girlfriend

Great conversation strikers help build rapport. In a romantic relationship, knowing quite a few topics for discussion for couples helps keep the relationship dust bunnies away.

1. Do you realize how much we've built together on love alone?

Remember when you first got together? My, how things have changed. This romantic question may sound rhetorical, but it's a great way to reflect on your relationship. It's a great starter to relive your love story and your favorite memory together.

2. Would you say that love grows over time, evolves, or both?

A guy should know a deep question to start some intimate and philosophical discussions. A meaningful conversation can develop from these kinds of questions because they really make you think. Everyone has their own opinions about what makes relationships strive or fail. Know hers.

3. What would you consider a perfect day?

Is it settling down to your favorite movie or going out and doing the craziest thing imaginable? It's an interesting question because we aren't always the same as our soul mates in terms of likes, dislikes, and beliefs.

4. What's a song that reminds you of our relationship?

It's likely her favorite song or something from the soundtrack of her favorite romantic movie. This may seem like a simple question, but it can truly reveal how she feels about you and your relationship together. Whether she thinks of you as a great boyfriend or not, the song that reminds her of your relationship might describe how she feels. Just listen closely to the lyrics.

5. Is there anything about our relationship that feels totally unique to us?

This is an excellent relationship question to ask your girl to get insight into something she genuinely believes. Regardless of whether the thing that is unique to you both is good or bad, it should start a deep conversation. Does your girlfriend wish to focus more time and energy on this, or is she happy with how it currently is?

6. What does happiness mean to you?

It is an important question to ask because if you use the information wisely, it can improve your relationship. Part of building a good connection, and prolonging and strengthening your commitment to one another, is making sure you keep each other happy. Understanding what happiness means to your girl, and finding ways to achieve it, is super important.

7. What’s the most surprising thing you’ve learned recently?

It's a fun question about life if you think about it. No matter how much you think you already know, there is always more to learn. Just like you may think you know your girl well, but when you ask the right question, you surprisingly learn something new. This can develop into a fun conversation, where she teaches you what she's learned.

8. What’s your favorite thing to do when the power goes out?

Random questions often start-up fascinating and engaging discussions. If darkness is her biggest fear, she might reveal how she deals when the power goes out. Or if she's not bothered by the dark, your girl might tell you about the funniest thing she's done to amuse herself, which has turned into a regular thing to do.

9. What’s the best way to spend a rainy afternoon?

Ask funny questions or play some fun trivia, of course! They can really light up the mood on a gloomy day. Whether your girl hates or loves rainy afternoons, she's bound to have ideas on the best ways to kill time.

10. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve heard about someone doing for someone else?

Discussing things you find romantic can bring on some great suggestions for plans later on. Perhaps keep her answer in mind with this one and devise your own version of it. It will show her you were listening, and she'll appreciate the effort and heart.

11. What cheesy song do you have memorized?

We all have that one song we'd love to hate but can't. Did you know that sharing music is a proven way to strengthen a romantic relationship?

12. What is the scariest thing you’ve ever done?

Maybe it's trying out some type of bizarre food. Perhaps, it was during your girlfriend's first time visiting a haunted house. I'm sure she'll have an interesting story to tell, whatever it is. Talking about your experiences to each other is one way to get to know each other better and establish a healthy relationship.

13. What is the one thing you find weird, but attractive in a person?

You'd be surprised by some of the things people find attractive. Maybe you're hairy, and she's into hairy guys.

14. What are your top played songs on Spotify/iTunes/etc.?

We all have a go-to song that instantly puts us in a good mood. Ask her to play them the next time you're together. You might even find something you like!

15. What’s your favorite place to go for lunch?

Every woman in the world loves brunch, and I'm sure she already has a favorite place in mind. Plus, this is a good question to ask to get an idea of where you should take her next for your date.

16. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

Do you want to know your girlfriend's stance on the world's biggest issues? Ask her this intimate question.

17. What's the furthest you’ve ever got a paper airplane to fly?

This is a fun question to ask to start a lighthearted competition. If you're feeling lucky, why not challenge your girlfriend to a dollar bill paper airplane contest? Whoever flies the plane farthest takes all the money!

18. What's the one thing you love about being your gender? If you could change to a man, would you do it?

We all have our own opinions about the opposite sex, and we sure have biases when it comes to our own. This is one of the meaningful questions that spark a good conversation.

19. When you talk about me to others, what do you say?

Women tell each other everything. From the wildest thing, you've done together to her favorite memory of you. If you're curious whether she's saying good things about you, this is an interesting question to ask.

20. Do you have nightmares? Is it something like we see in a T.V. show?

We all get nightmares, and sometimes we dream of the weirdest thing. But what is a dream if it isn't strange or scary, right?

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According to relationship expert Arthur Aron, asking increasingly intimate questions can help accelerate emotional connection. Maybe you've been dating her for a while and want to take your relationship up a notch. These interesting questions are a little more personal so be sure to ask them at the right time. From her most embarrassing moment to the biggest lesson she has learned, these questions will help you get to know your significant other better.

21. Do you have any secret untapped passions?

Maybe your girlfriend secretly loves to paint. Perhaps she has an eye for photography? This might be an important question you need to ask your S.O. to help her get out of her comfort zone.

22. Do you prefer group dinners or one-on-ones with friends?

If your girl's an extrovert, she probably enjoys being in a crowd. If she's an introvert, she can only take so much until her social battery runs out.

23. What’s the most bizarre situation you’ve ever walked into?

Sometimes, the craziest thing just happens to you unexpectedly. Whatever it is, prepare to get your mind blown.

24. Which of the places you’ve traveled to inspired you the most, and why?

Travel is one of the most life-changing things you can do for yourself. There's magic in immersing yourself in a different culture, meeting new people, and hearing their stories. Its impact is so remarkable that it has the power to change how you see the world.

25. Are you religious?

We all have different beliefs, but it's also worth noting that sharing or not sharing the same belief with your partner can make or break a relationship. Whatever her answer is, the most important thing is to agree to disagree on these differences and find a way to make it work for both of you.

26. What’s the last book you really loved?

A good read has the power to resonate with us, and you can tell a lot about a person based on their favorite book. Asking this interesting question is one way to get to know your girlfriend better.

27. What would you consider your greatest accomplishment in life? What would you like to be the greatest accomplishment of your entire life?

The meaning of success is different for everyone but what makes our accomplishments memorable is the value it holds in our life. Watch as her eyes lit up while she talks about her dreams.

28. What do you have in your purse right now?

Now here's a random question. Bag raids are always interesting. Women have a weird attachment to their purses, so this might be a fun question to ask on your next date night.

29. What is the one thing that makes you feel disgusted about people?

We all have pet peeves. Maybe it's how they chew their food when they're eating, or it could be how they treat the waiters.

30. Where and when was the most amazing sunset/sunrise you’ve ever seen?

Are you popping the big question real soon? Perhaps you're planning an anniversary date. How about a sunset proposal? Anything that involves watching the sun from the horizon is always romantic.

31. Where is the worst place you’ve been stuck for a long time?

A delayed flight? Terrible. Stuck in traffic? Terrible. Realizing you're in the same room with your ex? A nightmare.

32. What is your guilty pleasure?

We all have a guilty pleasure. Maybe your girlfriend's a shopaholic, or she could be one of those girls that are crazy for anything that tastes and smells like pumpkin spice.

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33. If you could be a guy for a day, what's the first thing you'd do?

I'm sure you've wondered what it's like to be a girl for a day, and it is also likely that your girl has also thought about what it would be like to be a guy for a day. Whether you ask this question on a random date or casual hang-out, it's sure to bring up some funny responses you can laugh about.

34. If your life were a joke, would our life together be a comedy show?

While it may seem like a strange question, lightening the mood by asking how your relationship together fits into a comedy show is a great way to look at your experiences from a lighthearted perspective. Imagining your relationship as a comedy show makes for a super fun "what if" conversation worth remembering.

35. How's your diet going? Oh, next question?

You may want to reserve this funny question for when you two are more comfortable and confident around each other. Asking this funny, joking question is a great way to ease tension or even continue funny conversations and keep it from running dry. Either way, you'll surely laugh at how spontaneous it is, especially if timed and asked in the perfect situation.

36. Do I make your heart race when I walk into the room, or should I try harder?

Finding new ways to make your girl fall more in love with you shows that you want her to know your relationship is special. Asking her what about you makes your relationship special or what you can do to make it more special shows her that you are willing to make her happy and meet her halfway in creating a strong and meaningful connection. Moreover, asking her this also opens up possibilities for ways to keep your relationship fresh and exciting with her favorite thing.

37. What's the funniest pick-up line anyone has ever used on you?

Pick-up lines are a fun way to break the ice with someone, but in certain cases, they can be over the top and hilarious rather than flirty and cute. This type of question is perfect for awkward silences and turns it into a fun-filled conversation. Asking such a question is also a wonderful way to break the ice with your girlfriend and laugh at a memory or two about her past.

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Fun but teasing questions are a terrific way to make your girl feel special and loved while remaining casual and sweet. While thinking of flirty icebreakers  may not be the easiest thing to come up with, this list can help you. You can either use them as it or take them as a stepping stone for thinking of your fun but flirty icebreakers to get a blush and laugh out of here.

38. How hard did you hit the ground when you fell from heaven?

Indirectly stating that she is an angel may be one of the oldest pick up lines in the book. But that doesn't make it any less sweet. Girls love to feel appreciated for what they do, and stating she is an angel for being in your life will make her feel like a million bucks. Remember, making your girl feel special and loved goes a long way in creating a special bond between you two.

39. What's behind that smile of yours I wonder?

Seeing your girlfriend smile is probably one of the most adorable things in the world, and commenting on it to flirt and compliment her is the perfect way to express your thoughts on her smile. Some girls feel insecure about their smiles, so telling her just how adorable and beautiful she looks with a smile can make her feel more confident around you and others. Also, asking her what is behind her random smile could bring up cute conversations or ideas that can connect the two of you more than ever.

40. You know you look beautiful tonight, right? I don't have to tell you, do I?

Girls will have confident, fearless days and low, moody ones. If you sense your girl is having a tough day reassuring her with this flirty question is the way to do it. It will for sure put a smile across her face and make you look charming for noticing. Such a question is also great as a late starter to make you more confident and cool around each other so you can have a tension-free evening with lots of laughs and inside jokes!

41. Are you ready to fall in love? I didn't think I was at first.

Falling in love isn't always the same for both people in a relationship. Some people take more time than others. While it may lead to a deep conversation, finding out the exact moment or moments when you two fell in love makes for great memories and perspectives you may have missed. If anything, asking your girlfriend this question brings up memories you have together and makes them sweeter than they were at first.

42. What are you doing for the rest of your life?

Hopefully, she answers, "spending time with you!" There are many ways to discover her life plans and whether or not you are part of those plans, but starting with this fun and flirty question can help you streamline the conversation into more serious topics about the future and making plans. With that, you can ease any discomfort in discussing the future with lighthearted questions that make everyone less anxious about the conversation ahead.

43. Would you kiss me where people are watching?

If she says yes, go ahead and try it out. Recreate a scene from her favorite movie and get her all giddy inside. She'll love how forward you are and how proud you are to be with her. You can also take her to her favorite place and kiss her like it's the first time. That's a memory she'll keep in her heart forever.

44. What do you feel when we hold each other's hands?

A deep question like this will get her talking about her feelings. If you've been together for a long time now, it's good to know if she still feels giddy and excited when you touch her. A relationship question like this is still a good conversation starter because she gets to share how much she still loves you even after all this time.

45. What would you like me to call you?

This is the right question to ask when you're still at the beginning of the relationship. Some women like pet names like baby, sweetheart, and honey. Some girls prefer to be called by their first names. Make sure that you're calling her with a word she's comfortable with. Don't take offense when she doesn't like you calling her sweetie or pumpkin; it's all a matter of preference with this matter.

46. If we could recreate one day from our relationship, what day would you choose?

You better be prepared when she answers this. If she answers a specific day and you can't remember what happened, that would be the worst thing to do! If you don't want this question to backfire, make sure that you know what she'll say before you ask.

47. At what point did you decide that you wanted us to be a couple?

Truth questions like this are always great to talk about. It lets the both of you reminisce and remember all the fond memories you had when you were just starting as a couple. It also allows you to know the things that made her choose you. It helps you be aware of the things that attracted her to you, so you can continue to do them.

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You've passed the test by asking things to get to know a girl, and she's now your girlfriend. Good job! That doesn't mean you can start slacking, though. Life doesn't end there.

A happy relationship takes work to maintain, and while you may know her favorite dinner spot, you may not know about a hidden talent she's freakishly good at. Asking get-to-know-you questions allows you to dig a little deeper to truly understand her.

48. Which good cause is closest to your heart?

A question that would restore your faith in humanity or turn your girlfriend into an evil villain. Let's hope your girlfriend has a good heart.

49. Under what circumstances do you tend to feel shy?

Keep this in mind and whenever you're with her, do your best to help her feel comfortable when she's uneasy. She'll notice.

50. Which of your family members do you admire most, and why?

You can tell a lot about a person based on the family she grew up with. Maybe your globe-trekker girlfriend grew up with adventurous parents.

51. What’s the funniest or most traumatic thing that has ever happened to you on a date?

We all have a terrible date story, and no matter how weird and strange they were, it's always a great memory to laugh about.

52. When’s the last time you stayed up all night?

Perhaps it was during the first time she got dumped and thought it was the end of the world. Maybe it was when she had to work double shifts because her inconsiderate workmate forgot to file a leave.

53. Have you ever had your fortune told by a psychic or a Tarot card reader, and if so, what did you learn?

I've never done it, but I bet it's as exciting and nerve-racking as I imagined it to be. Besides, girls love these kinds of stuff, so she probably already tried it.

54. What would you change about yourself?

Self-improvement is essential to being a better person. If she's constantly looking for ways to improve herself, you probably want to keep her around more than anything.

55. What benefit do you bring to the group when you hang out with friends?

Where does she see herself in her friend group? Is she the loner? The leader? The hot one? This will speak a lot about the relationship she has with her friends.

56. What do you fear is hiding in the dark?

Who doesn't get freaked out by the dark? Don't tell me you didn't run back to your room as if your life depended on it when it was time to switch off the lights in your living room.?

57. What’s something silly that you fear?

Sometimes those monsters aren't monsters at all. Sometimes, they're relationships, commitments, or even persons.

58. What did you imagine being an adult would be like when you were a little kid?

Kids imagine the funniest things as kids, and surely your girlfriend had her idea of being an adult. Asking her what she thought it would be like compared to what it is like tells you more about what she values in life and what her childhood was like. As a kid, she probably imagined that being an adult meant doing what you wanted when you wanted, even finding a dream job. It'll be a fun and favorite way to compare expectation versus reality.

59. What's something you do that your 5-year-old self would probably find funny?

As a five-year-old, everything adults do can be a funny thing. Asking your girl what she does that would make her 5-year-old self laugh is a fun way to see if she has any weird habits or quirks. These quirks tend to create relationships with people more special because it becomes one of their defining characteristics. Knowing what makes her unique and special will always be something you can use down the line to make her smile.

60. What's the best piece of advice your grandma gave you?

Girls have a special relationship with their grandmothers and often seek them for advice about life and love. While a grandmother's advice is something to treasure and takes to heart, there are possible moments where she gets a wacky or out-of-this-world response. Knowing what that weird piece of advice is can move towards learning more about her family and the memories she treasures about them.

61. What's a weird question you've wanted to ask me but have never gotten around to?

Asking her if she has any weird questions she has been dying to ask you can turn into romantic questions if requested at the right time. As a girl, she is likely to have tons of things she wants to know about you, and with this, you are giving her the floor to ask away. She will love that you are being open to her and showing that you want her to know you more, just as much as you want to get to know her.

62. If a movie was made of your life, who would you want to direct it, and who would play you?

Imagining your life as a movie is the perfect question to ask to get insight into how she sees herself. It also shows you how she fits into other people's lives. Additionally, this question offers you the things she values in her life and how she makes the most of the situations handed to her. While it may seem like a typical question, if you pay attention, you'll learn more about her than you expected

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Weird things to ask make for quirky answers that both of you can enjoy looking back on in the future. Having a list of things to ask your significant other is all well and good, but don't forget to spice up your questions with some out-of-the-box ones that catch them off guard from time to time. It's a surefire way to keep boring conversations away.

48. What normal things do you think are sometimes not normal?

Thinking something is not normal when it is maybe something worth asking your girlfriend. There are tons of expectations and reality checks out there that not everyone agrees on, and finding out if there are any she thinks are strange can make for a great conversation. Depending on the mood and vibe, this kind of question can be a shallow lighthearted conversation that can streamline into a deep existential one. You'll be surprised to learn that some people find seemingly normal things strange.

49. Which surgery do you believe should never exist?

Surgery is never fun to consider ever needing, but some just should not exist. With that, it is likely that your girlfriend also has that one type of surgery that grosses her out and would never want to see, experience, or hear about. Yes, it is a weird question, but that is the point! Talking about strange things like this is another way you two can create a closer connection. It's hilarious to think about and adds to your list of fun ideas for discussion.

50. What is the weirdest thing you posted on the internet?

Hiding behind anonymity on the internet can cause people to post crazy and weird things! Everyone has some strange thing on the internet that no one knows is theirs. Whether it's a Reddit post, Behance artwork, or Tumbler rant, there is bound to be dirt to dig up! Directly asking your girl if she has anything may bring up hilarious things that she would be embarrassed about if anyone else saw! Be happy she is willing to share it with you.

51. Which mythical creature do you want to become?

Escaping into imagination from time to time by talking about which mythical creature she wants to be, let the two of you open up a creative connection beyond real-life conversations. Having such a conversation to escape to can take a load off during stressful times and create the perfect opportunity to build a fantasy world made by you two.

52. What weird smell do you find particularly appealing?

There are weird smells out there that some people find appealing. Like paint or musty cabinet smells. No matter what it is, it's very likely that your girl has one or two scents she loves but may be out of the ordinary or weird. It's a pure, fun question to ask on any date or hang out.

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53. Keep it up. You've only just begun.

Things don't get magically easier and require less work once you attach a label to them. You're still expected to work at it if you want a solid foundation for a relationship. Texting is a convenient and socially acceptable way to do so! (Just don't overdo it).

The following will leave her wishing you weren't on the opposite end of her phone but instead snuggling under a blanket with her.

54. What’s your “go-to” video or gif for a laugh?

She may have already showed you a few of her favorites.

55. What’s your favorite quote from a movie? What’s the worst?

You can't handle the truth.

56. What’s your “go-to” joke?

Q: How many tickles does it take to make an octopus laugh?

A: Tentacles!

Silly, stupid, and hilarious.

57. What thing do you really wish you could buy right now?

Add that to her birthday or Christmas list. Or just buy it for her out of the blue. She'll be impressed you remembered.

58. What’s the funniest thing someone could spend money on / buy on the internet?

I don't know about her, but I wouldn't spend a dollar on those Yeezy shoes. I could have just ruined my clothes and gotten the same look.

59. What dumb pickup lines do you know?

Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven? I mean, it sounds dumb, but this always works for the ladies.

60. What’s something that happens in real life but rarely gets portrayed in movies?

It turns out missiles fired from helicopters move much more quickly in real life than in movies.

61. What’s the best “hidden gem” that you’ve found?

I love discovering hole-in-the-wall places. If your girlfriend is adventurous, she probably knows one or two secret places.

62. What’s your favorite scent that brings back great memories?

Scents can send us back in time. Maybe the morning air reminds her of summer camp. Perhaps the smell of freshly cooked pancakes reminds her of summer vacations with granny.

63. What makes you nervous?

From large crowds to complete silence to anything under the sun, we all have triggers that make us uneasy. Ask her how you can help her feel more comfortable when she's skittish.

64. What movie did you watch over and over when you were a kid?

Some movies never lose their charm and wonder no matter how often they are re-watched. While there are favorite movies, the movies your girlfriend watched endlessly on a loop as a kid most likely had a huge impact on her. You can even discuss favorite scenes and lines that stuck out in the movie.

65. What's the worst text you've ever sent by accident?

Texting has tons of benefits, but because it is so fast, sometimes people send something they regret. Sometimes, your girlfriend may have even sent a text to the wrong person! Embarrassing texts are a part of life, and talking about which ones send her blushing to remember is a great way to laugh at mistakes and lighten the embarrassment.

66. Which of the four seasons is your favorite?

From time to time, asking a something like this randomly goes a long way in discovering little facts about your girlfriend. Even asking something as simple as what her favorite season is helps you make that time of year special for her. You may even find some surprises as to why it's her favorite. Knowing her favorite season is also great, so you can plan special events and dates that you can both enjoy.

67. How do you usually spend your weekends?

Weekends are the perfect time to relax, unwind, and do things you love. While not every weekend will be jam-packed with adventure and dates together, asking her what she enjoys doing on her own to relax can still help you plan a special weekend with everything she enjoys doing. Picking up a book and reading together or playing video games with co-op options is just as fun when you are with the right person.

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Intimacy and romance always get women. They appreciate a man who makes them feel loved, heard, and seen. A man who can do all these things is tough to come- luckily for them, you are that guy.

68. Have you ever received a love letter?

Consider writing a love letter and mailing it to her. Sure it's antiquated, but she'll tell all her friends how amazing her boyfriend is.

69. How important is marriage to you? How important are children and family? Do you have a personal timeline set for such things?

Asking these might make or break your relationship. You both need to be on the same level when it comes to these or be able to find a compromise.

70. Do you have needs in your life that are not being met? What can I do to help with those needs?

We all have expectations in our relationships, but we might not always know some of these automatically. Asking this question is a great way to reconnect with your girlfriend and make up for all those times you missed them.

71. Would you remain with me if you discovered that I couldn't bear children? If I had a criminal record? If I had a lot of debt? If I had a terminal disease?

These are extremely important to ask in a long-term relationship.

72. Have I ever hurt you in any way that you haven't told me about?

You should know but in case you don't, this is your time to make up for them. Brace yourself.

73. How would you define a good sexual relationship?

It's different for everyone, but whatever it is, you better do something about it.

74. What about me would you change?

Don't take her answer personally. Remember, change is necessary for growth. If anything, just think that this can make you a better person.

75. What’s something don't know about me but want to know?

She probably has something she's been dying to ask you but has been too nervous to actually do it. Open up and answer honestly.

76. How would you like someone to take care of you if you're sad or upset? What makes you feel cared for?

Tucking her in at bedtime, bringing her a care package when she's sick, surprising her with flowers when she has a bad day, and kissing her on the forehead just because you love her are all great ways to show her you care.

77. What are some really romantic dates? And some sexy ones?

We have plenty of romantic ideas. Be like Barney Stinson and learn how to plan the best dates, will you? He might not be the best at commitments, but Barney Stinson sure has game when it comes to organizing date nights.

78. What is a fancy restaurant you've been wanting to try? What about a home-cooked meal you like?

Save up and surprise her with a couple of plates you can't normally afford, or stay in and treat her to a candlelit dinner. You can't go wrong either way unless you burn the food.

79. Do you believe in marriage? Or do you prefer committed relationships?

Sure, tax incentives are nice, but divorce can be a nightmare. If legal marriage isn't for her, you can still have a fun ceremony without worrying about dividing everything between you if things don't work out.

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The only way to know where you stand with your girlfriend is to ask her, but it can seem difficult to find the right words. The beauty of these relationship questions is that they're constricted to open serious topics like these.

Just sit down and ask this list of "questions to ask gf" to find out how she's feeling and where things are going.

80. Do I make you happy?

Perhaps the most important by far.

81. When exactly did you fall in love with me?

It may not be when you think it was.

82. How can I make you feel more special?

Every girl wants her guy to ask her this from time to time.

83. Describe your idea of a perfect night together.

Take notes, you'll want to put this night together at some point.

84. What is your idea of being happily married?

Find out now in case you're heading their with this one.

85. What is intimacy for you?

It's philosophical, but you want to make sure you're reaching that standard she sets.

86. In what situations do you feel that I love you?

You should learn more about making sure your girlfriend feels loved and appreciated in your relationship. It does take time to get to know someone and what it takes to make them feel loved, but once you know, it gets easier to be the partner they are happy to be with.

87. What do I mean to you?

Openness and connection are both important aspects of a healthy relationship. Asking your girlfriend what you mean to her can give you the best confidence boost ever by hearing exactly how you make things better. Also, asking such a question is a wonderful way to show her that you are open to finding more ways to improve yourself to make your relationship better.

88. What's your favorite place to be with me?

Everyone has that one place that holds special memories or emotions. In some cases, couples may have different ideas of a favorite place, but asking your girlfriend what hers is tells you more about the type of activities she enjoys with you.

She may love bonding and relaxing with you if she prefers cozy and small cafes. If she loves adventurous locations like camping sites or hiking trails, she may love experiencing new things with you. Either way, asking her about which place she considers her favorite goes a long way in helping you plan the ideal date or surprise down the line!

89. How do you feel when we're not together?

Missing each other during time apart is normal, but it doesn't mean it's easy. If there is anything the COVID-19 lockdowns taught us, it's how to deal with the emotions of missing someone. Finding out how your girl feels when you are apart can help make it easier for her (and yourself) to communicate emotional needs. With that, you can maintain a strong relationship and not falter even when apart.

90. What does love mean to you?

Love means different things to different people. How love is expressed, thought of, and acted upon all impacts people in varying degrees. By asking your girlfriend what love means to her, it can open up a closer connection and bond between you two. Moreover, knowing what love means to her grants you insight into what she expects from a relationship and a partner.

10 Personal and Deep Topics To Discuss With Her

Once the ice breakers and text questions have lost their luster, you should find some private questions for your girlfriend; the kind that teleports her to a different time in her life or causes her to share her favorite kink.

These questions can be uncomfortable to answer, but that's why they're fun. They force us to open Pandora's box and unleash the things we've kept locked up for millennia, which isn't always bad.

Everyone's different. Embrace it and have fun. So if private questions interest you (and they should)… then:

91. Did you feel closer to your mom or dad growing up?

Our parents have their favorite child, so it's only fair to have a favorite parent. This will let you know what kind of relationship she has with her parents, who are big parts of her life.

92. Have you ever left someone you still loved?

Occasionally we have to get out of a relationship because it's unhealthy for us. Be the best man you can be for her, and she hopefully won't have to do this to you.

93. When’s the last time you felt seriously disappointed?

What bummed her out most recently? Has the moment passed, or is there something you can do to help?

94. When’s the last time you failed spectacularly at something?

She didn't fall down the stairs. She performed an ancient dancing ritual to demonstrate how gravity works.

95. What would you do if you could switch careers without any concern for money?

She doesn't have to switch immediately. She can always keep her day job and follow her passion part-time.

96. What’s the first thing you’d do if you were the opposite sex for one day? Is there something in particular about the opposite sex you want to know?

Cue Beyoncé's "If I Were a Boy." Women sure do love singing that song.

97. In which of your past relationships were you the happiest? Is the ending something you’ve ever seen coming?

A lot of people say it's a bad idea to talk about exes. I disagree. The things you can learn from her past relationships can highlight red flags you may have missed or - in this case - show you what someone else did that made her happy.

98. Have you forgiven yourself for your wrongdoings?

We've all done things in life that we regret. But that's the thing about mistakes- we grow and learn from them, making us better individuals.

99. When did you lose your virginity? How did it happen?

Your firsts are always memorable, but it's not always great. Depending on your girlfriend's experience, her answers will either make you laugh or cringe. If you're the jealous type, you might want to skip this question.

100. What do you fantasize about? Is there any particular fantasy that you'd like to make a reality? How would you feel about role-playing?

Physical intimacy is an important part in any relationship and trying out new things and mixing things up in the bedroom is one way to keep your sex life fun and spicy.

Downloadable and Printable List of Topics for Discussion With Your Girlfriend

Here is a downloadable and printable list of things to ask your girlfriend (right click the image and select Save Image As...):

How to Initiate a Conversation with Your Girlfriend

Starting a conversation with your girlfriend can feel tasking, especially if you are not big on small talk or don't know how to start talking, to begin with.

Luckily for you, I've already prepared some pointers to help you out.

1. Relax

She already likes you, so relax. Serious conversations and asking serious questions can be nerve-racking. Before you say or ask anything, think about the best way to deliver it and the right words to use. Being mindful is key.

2. Listen

Active listening is an essential part of effective communication. When you listen to understand and not just respond, you create a better rapport and deeper connection with the other person.

3. Ask follow-up questions

Asking follow-up questions helps you understand a topic better and allows the other person to elaborate on their answers. Ask relevant follow-up questions if you want to keep a meaningful conversation going.

4. Be yourself and have fun!

Genuine conversation happens when you stay true to yourself. You don't have to pretend to be someone you're not to spark great conversations.

How to Choose the Best Topics of Conversation With Your Significant Other

Choosing the right things to ask depends on many things and the situation you two find yourselves in. You won't want to ask a random silly question in the middle of a heartfelt conversation or a serious question when the dialogue is comedic and lighthearted.

Tip #1: Keep in mind her interests and dislikes.

When deciding on the best idea for discussion, it's a good idea to know her interests and dislikes. Knowing these things can help you gauge how engaged she will be in your conversation with her. Talking about what she likes will make her feel comfortable and at ease discussing, while choosing questions that you know make her uncomfortable can make it more difficult for her to be fully honest with you about her thoughts.

Ideally, save the disliked conversations for when she feels more open to talking about them. You last want to push her to discuss something when she isn't ready.

Tip #2: Match the mood.

Another tip to remember is the mood of the situation you two are in. Don't try to turn a casual conversation into a deep and emotional one if you sense she would rather keep things lighthearted. Also, don't try to make light of a serious discussion that she thinks is very important to discuss. It all boils down to not pushing too much or not downplaying.

By matching the mood, you can have a more connected conversation where both feel heard, understood, and respected in letting feelings and thoughts flow. All that without the pressure of feeling belittled or pushed into something neither enjoys.

Tip #3: Make sure you can engage in the conversation.

Most importantly, ensure the question you choose to ask her comes from the heart, and you are more than willing to engage or listen intently to the answers she gives you.

Tip # 4: Look for fun topics to discuss with your lover.

Lastly, actively looking for topics to talk about with your girlfriend offers fewer chances for boring conversations and silent lulls that make things awkward. There are so many topics to consider, and even just one can make for fun things to talk about daily.


The topic of food always brings up good questions. Just the thought of food can spiral into an endless list such as favorites, dislikes, weirdest, and more. The sheer amount of cuisines and tastes out there makes for an ongoing conversation that will have the both of you talking for hours on end and comparing likes and dislikes. Also, you two may just come up with a special recipe that is yours and your alone.


Music is also a fun thing to talk about. Everyone has their preferences in terms of genre, artist, and decade. It's one thing to like music, and it's another to discover the favorites of your girlfriend. Music also creates a special bond between people, and if the two of you can spend time listening to each other's tunes, you'll have memories and songs that remind you of each other for years to come.


Another great question topic is about movies. Just like food and music, there are endless branches of conversations to have stemming from just one simple question. Asking her what movie she thinks is the best can streamline into why she thinks it's the best and the actors she thinks played the role best. Movies are another conversational topic that will have the two of you bounding ideas and perspectives for the next few hours without a single awkward silence. Just make sure you're ready for long conversations.

5 Fun Conversation Games To Play With Your Girl

Aside from simply asking your girlfriend questions, the two of you can also play conversation games that set the stage for engaging and meaningful talks. These games lay the groundwork so you can ask her all the questions you want in a natural way that doesn't feel out of the blue or random. With it, you can also give her the chance to learn about you more when it is her turn to ask questions.

1. Would You Rather

Would you rather can either be a chill relaxing get to know each other game or a steamy conversation filled with romantic questions? Playing would you rather open up many opportunities to discover new stories about your girlfriend and come up with the craziest thing to talk about. No matter what, you will learn something worth remembering about her.

2. Kill, Marry, Hook up

Kill, marry, and hook up is a classic junior high or high school game that never gets old. Thinking about all the people in your life and what you see them as gives you a reason to discuss, debate, and even consider new perspectives. Plus, this little game gets super fun if the two of you have diverse opinions that can lead to fun debates and defenses.

3. How Well Do You Know Me

Finding out just how well you know each other through personal questions is a wonderful way to see if you are on the same page in terms of "knowing each other." Assuming one thing or another about your girlfriend works in some cases, but clearing it up directly with interesting questions works best to ensure you can be the best boyfriend and make her as happy as possible.

4. Truth or Dare

Truth or dare is another classic conversation game that brings up memories and stories that she may not otherwise tell you. Finding out the truth about that embarrassing thing she never talks about may be the best thing about her. Plus, it will be easier for you to make her more comfortable around you. Also, truth or dare proves the perfect icebreaker game for new couples who are just starting to get into having meaningful conversations.

5. Never Have I Ever

Like truth or dare, never have I ever is a classic conversation game that brings up a favorite memory or embarrassing situation without feeling too guarded to share the experience. You will learn what experiences you have in common or situations you find uncomfortable. It's great to see where you two have similarities and compare notes on occasions to form a closer connection that makes you more confident to be with each other.

Frequently Asked Questions

You now have a list of queries to ask your girlfriend, but you might still have questions of your own. We're here to answer them.

How do you find interesting and passionate ideas to talk about with your girlfriend?

You can take inspiration from movies, self-help books, dating vlogs, or articles like this.

If your girlfriend doesn't want to answer questions you have been dying to know, should you insist she answer them?

A big NO. Be a good boyfriend and learn to respect your girlfriend's boundaries. If she's ready to talk about it, she will.

Can you ask deep questions to your girlfriend over text

I would reserve asking these questions to ask a girlfriend when you're together. Talking through text makes grasping certain tones and meanings confusing, and you don't want to cause a misunderstanding while you're away from each other. Lighthearted ones like asking about your girlfriend's favorite ice cream flavor are some of the best stuff to talk about over text.

Is it okay to ask my girlfriend about her past relationships?

Asking about your girlfriend's past relationship is one way to get to know her better, but you certainly don't want to overdo it. These are some of the most private issues and can stir negative emotions. So be careful.

How do I know if she finds the conversation interesting?

You'll know if your girlfriend finds a conversation interesting if she keeps her focus on you and engages in what you are saying. The more interested she is, the less likely she is to pick up her phone, check social media, multi-task, and do other things while you talk. Also, girls interested in a conversation will keep eye contact and react genuinely to what you are saying. It's all about body language in gauging her interest.

What topics do girls love to talk about?

There are many topics girls love to talk about, and each girl is different. While some will love talking about intimate questions, others will want to steer clear of them. On the same note, some girls enjoy discussing their careers while others would rather talk about hobbies.

In deciding what topics to talk about, listening to the things she constantly brings up and discusses with you is your key to unlocking her favorite conversation pieces. Getting to know her favorite things is also a great way to strike up a conversation that she will talk endlessly about.

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In Conclusion

I hope you enjoyed this list of things to ask your girlfriend.

The best questions are the ones that would make her laugh, blush, her eyes light up, or keep her on her toes. Monotony is the death of desire. If you want to keep your conversations interesting, these interesting list of things to ask are your best bet.

Keep it fun and meaningful, and always have follow-up subject matters. That should keep the ball rolling.