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78 Romantic and Sweet Things To Do for Your Girlfriend!


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by | October 1st, 2021

If you're looking for sweet things to do for your girlfriend, there's no shortage of touching date ideas and plans for things to do for that special someone in your life.

Even if you're still wondering how to get a girlfriend, you can think about these sweet things to do for your girlfriend beforehand.

That way, when you do find that special someone, you'll be ready to make her fall head over heels in love with you.

Each one can make her feel happy, special, loved, and even grateful that she has such a thoughtful boyfriend/husband... or can make her see you as a romantic guy that she'd go on a date with.

...And it doesn't matter which reason you use these ideas (to surprise your girlfriend/wife, or to impress a new girl), because all of them are thoughtful gestures that make girls insanely happy!


28 Best Sweet Things To Do for Your Girlfriend

If you really want to impress your girl, it's best to try the very best sweet things to do for your girlfriend. With these top picks, you'll stand the highest chance of really impressing her.

Here are the 28 best sweet things to do for your girlfriend:

1. Drive Her to Work/Class

If you live close to your girlfriend’s house, an amazingly helpful thing to do is to pick her up in the morning, and drive her to work/class (or drive her home).

2. Give Her a Massage (Feet, Arms, Back, Or Whatever Hurts)

I get it: you may not think you’re great at massages, or it may not be exactly what you want to do.

But think about this… every girl carries stress somewhere in her body and you can be the man that helps her relax.

3. Put Her Music On Her iPod/Build Her a Spotify Playlist

If you don’t remember the days that guys made girls mixed tapes (and don’t feel bad if that’s the case), it was one of the most thoughtful and romantic things to do for a girl. And the current version of that gesture is to make her a playlist on iTunes or Spotify... except that nowadays it’s dramatically easier and faster (yet doesn’t lose any of its romantic appeal).

4. Do A Home Repair Project for Her

A lot of women have had to complete home repair projects themselves, and are more than capable of doing it… but that doesn’t mean we don’t like to see you do it for us (it’s incredibly sexy).

5. Carry Her Upstairs After a Night in Heels… Or Give Her a Piggyback Ride

Not only does it make her 1000x more comfortable, but it also shows her that you’re the type of guy who can help her out when she needs it most (plus, it’s just fun for her to be carried).

6. Buy Her a Gift from Our List of Female Approved Gift Ideas

A thoughtful gift (especially for no particular reason) is one of the best romantic things to do for your girlfriend. Girls love mementos of you around, and a gift tells her that she’s special enough to be remembered all the time.

7. Find Out Her Love Language

The ways you show each other that you love each other might be vastly different. You might like to buy her gifts, but she might really want you to help her with chores/work/homework… because that’s what will make her feel loved.

And while she appreciates your gifts, it’s just not what she really wants from you.

8. Make Her Dinner

This is a classic thing to do for your girlfriend (or wife), but it’s still incredibly romantic. Even if your dinner is simple, the act of being served is one of the most romantic things for a girl.

9. …Or Lunch

Your girlfriend probably hasn’t had anyone pack her lunch since kindergarten, so this is a thoughtful, incredibly sweet surprise you can give her.

10. …Or Build Her Something

You can take the appeal of making her food one step further… and actually build her something that will last dramatically longer.

So if you’re good at carpentry, build her something to keep: a night table, bookshelf, or even picture frame will be useful and incredibly cool to receive.

11. Watch A Show Only Together, Even If You Really Want to Watch An Episode

So show the same patience with your girl... choose a show you can both get into, and loyally wait to watch it until you're together.

12. Buy Her Pajamas

If you don’t feel comfortable buying your girlfriend underwear yet, you can absolutely buy her some comfortable, cute pajamas instead (girls all love comfy pj’s, but rarely buy them for themselves... plus, sleepwear is almost as intimate as underwear).

13. Write Her a Letter

With all the digital media available, it’s incredibly rare to get a handwritten letter (or even a note) from a guy, but I can promise you, handwriting something is an incredibly romantic thing to do.

...And since it is so rare, she probably hasn’t gotten a note in a long time, so being able to physically hold your words in her hands is really special. Plus, writing a note can take as little as 30 seconds, yet it brings her joy for days… so guys, why wouldn’t you do this?

14. Make a Travel Bucket List

There’s something romantic about planning the future with someone and it’s comforting knowing that when they picture the future, you’re there with them.

So plan a travel bucket list with your girlfriend, and let her know that when you picture traveling the world, it’s with her.

15. Let Her Fix/Cut Your Hair/Beard

Almost every girl has an opinion on your style (whether she likes it or not), so give in on a date night and let her fix you up the way she likes (take it a step further and let her choose her favorite outfit for you, too).

…And even if the way she styles your hair and beard isn’t exactly your favorite, isn’t it worth it for one night to know that she’s insanely attracted to the way you look?

16. Spend A Long Time On the Phone

So just once, have a long conversation (30 mins – an hour) on the phone with her after work. Tell her all about your day, and listen to her too. The conversation really can be that simple… she just likes your voice and attention.

Pro tip: check out these 101 questions to ask a girl for conversation ideas.

17. Write Her a Song

If making a playlist seemed too simple for you… write her a song instead.

Even if it’s a short, silly one, she’ll love that you took the time to think about her (and she loves seeing you perform).

18. Surprise Her at Work (With a Gift or Visit)

Deliver flowers, lunch, or make a surprise visit in the middle of the day (just make sure that no one will mind a disturbance!).

Pro tip:  With a flower of the month club, you can surprise her with flowers monthly. Here's our favorite club.

19. Bring Breakfast in Bed (And It Doesn't Have to Be Elaborate)

Breakfast in bed' usually brings up the image of an omelet or pancake, mimosa, and small vase with a single rose served on a beautiful serving tray.

20. Let Her Nap

Sometimes we all could use a good nap, right? So give that restful gift to your girlfriend or wife.

Pull the shades, turn on some soft music, and take the kids (or the dog) out for a couple hours to let her catch up on some sleep alone. It seems small (and it is easy), but good rest is one of the best gifts you can give to a busy, tired girl.

21. Do Some of Her House Chores

Take one of her least favorite house chores for the day. And that's why it's a great romantic thing to do... it's a total surprise (and delight) when she doesn't have to do something she dislikes.

22. Draw Her a Bath

Just like every girl can sometimes use a nap, sometimes they need a relaxing bath, too. It's a time for her to completely relax her body and mind... so why don't you give it to her?

Get some soap, light a romantic candle, and run a hot bath for her (bonus points if you get her a pillow and towel warmer, too). Then leave her alone to enjoy her relaxation, and notice how grateful she is when she comes out.

23. Put A Heating Pad On Her Side of the Bed

Here's an incredibly simple thing you can do for her:

Slip a heating pad under the sheet on her side of the bed. By the time she gets in, the sheet will be nice and warm (and trust me, especially in the winter, this is an unbelievably great surprise).

24. Give her a foot rub

It's simple but very effective. Don't be shy - get down there and rub her feet. You'll be rewarded with the sweetest moans and sighs.

25. Hold her hand in public

Who cares who sees? Reach out and grab her hand in public. It's an undeniably sweet move that'll make her feel cared for and protected.

26. Do her laundry

It might not be a man's "traditional" role to do a woman's laundry, but it definitely shows how much you care. Go the extra mile with fabric softeners for extra points.

27. Cuddle her

Something as simple as a cuddle can be the sweetest thing ever. This is especially true if you're cuddling her out of the blue in a spontaneous, romantic moment.

28. Cook her favorite dish

There's a reason why girls think it's romantic when guys cook for them. It shows that you're willing to be her caretaker and that you're concerned about her well-being.

19 sweet romantic things to do for your girlfriend

If you want to blend your romantic skills with a sweet gesture that'll melt her heart, choose one of these sweet romantic things to do for your girlfriend. These ideas show how passionate you are.

Here are 19 sweet romantic things to do for your girlfriend:

29. Take A Long Lunch with Her

If you both have jobs that allow unscheduled lunch breaks, take a long lunch with her. You can pick her up, or meet her somewhere nearby.

30. Do That One Thing You Don’t Want To

If you're looking to earn huge brownie points with your girlfriend, here's the best way to earn them.

31. Plan A Date for Her and A Friend

Plan an extremely romantic, even girly date for your girlfriend... to go on with a female friend or relative. Why is that so genius? She gets the chance to show off to her friend/relative how great you are

32. Go to The Gym with Her

Go to the gym with her. Plus, you're really doing yourself a favor too by exercising, so this is a win-win

33. Take Her On an Original Date

One of the most romantic things you can do for your girlfriend is to take her on a creative date... because while she loves your routines, they can get a little boring sometimes.

So check out our list of date ideas (some of them are even free), and combine them using this formula for a perfect date. No matter what you put together, she'll be so happy that you planned something new.

34. Plan A Trip Alone with Her

Almost everyone claims that they need a vacation... almost on a daily basis. Does that sound familiar?

I'm sure it does... so why don't you do one of the best things you can for your girlfriend... plan a vacation for just the two of you?

...And it doesn't have to be expensive... you can even just getaway to a nearby town for a long weekend. Just make sure that your vacation includes lots of relaxing and romantic activities.

35. Have A Fancy Date

Come on guys, you know you look better in a suit than you do in shorts and a t-shirt... so just once, get really dressed up with her for a date. She'll love it.

36. Have A No-Phone Date

Turn off your phone. That's it. You can actually do this on any date. But it's it can be mentally difficult for guys with an attachment to their phones.

...But the thing is, it's hugely impactful to show your girlfriend that for one night nothing (work, friends, sports, updates) matters as much as she does.

37. Teach Her Something (How to Shoot a Gun, Fix a Flat, Etc.)

Your girl loves to be impressed with your manly knowledge, so show it off.

Teach her how to fix a flat tire, tune a guitar, aim a gun, grill the perfect steak, or anything manly. Plus, it gives you a nice ego boost to know that you can teach something to someone else.

38. Take Her On a Picnic

A simple picnic is one of the best of those classic dates. Pack sandwiches, tacos, or even bring a pizza and a picnic blanket outside to watch the sunset (huge bonus points if you bring champagne).

39. Take Her to Your First Date/Proposal Spot for A Date

Need a powerfully romantic date idea fast?

Easy: take her to the site of your first date, or to where you proposed. Pack a picnic if you need to.

...And guys, this is seriously romantic... because it shows your girlfriend that you remember/value the first time you went out, and/or the moment you asked her to marry you.

40. Let Her Pick Out Some Clothes for You

Take her shopping and let her pick out some items she really likes the way you look in

but either way, you can be 100% sure that she'll be really into the way you look. It's the best way to dress to make her happy.

41. Take Her On an Impromptu Date

Guys... if you surprise her with a date, the date doesn't even have to be creative... the power of the date is in the surprise.

So take her for a walk, then stop for dinner... or pick her up from work and go get ice cream. It really doesn't matter what the surprise is, because the fact that you tried to surprise (and delight) her is incredibly romantic.

42. Invite Her to Do Something You Know She Likes

I've said it several times in this article... remembering your girlfriend's preferences is itself a hugely romantic thing to do. Not every man takes the time to remember little things about his girl, and it makes her feel incredibly special when you remember.

So take her to that cafe she said she likes, or get tickets to the movie that's coming out. No matter what, just get something you know she will love.

43. Paint a picture of your girlfriend

It doesn't matter whether you're a good painter - it's the thought that counts. No matter how it turns out, she'll love it.

44. Change your cell phone's wallpaper to a picture of her

A lot of girls these days actually force their boyfriends to do this, but it's better if you choose to. Pick out her prettiest picture and you'll be reminded of her all day long.

45. Listen to her dreams and help make them come true

Something as simple as listening can be an incredibly sweet and caring move. Listening also helps you learn more about her, and you can use that information to be more romantic in the future.

46. Fold her laundry

Folding laundry might sound boring, but it can be a little more interesting if you know you're doing it for someone you love. It's a very sweet move.

47. Have her family and friends over for a cook out

Doing something sweet for your girlfriend doesn't necessarily mean being with her alone. You can show how much you care by bonding with her friends and family.

31 sweet cute things to do for your girlfriend

Above all else, girls love it when their relationship takes a "cute" turn. It reminds them of the innocence and purity of your feelings for her, and cute relationships always end up lasting the longest.

If you choose cute things to do for your girlfriend, it's always a safe move.

Here are 31 cute things to do for your girlfriend:

48. Dance with Her (Out or at Home)

You can take her ballroom dancing if you’re up for that… but honestly, a slow dance in the kitchen is 1000x more romantic. There doesn’t even have to be any music… just take her hand while she’s making dinner and dance with her for a minute.

49. Comment When You Notice Things She Changes

This is an incredibly, overly simple sweet thing to do for your girlfriend, and you can do it constantly:

Notice when she changes something (hair, makeup, new clothes), and compliment it.

Knowing that their guy notices/likes it is a huge ego boost she needs (plus if you get into the habit of noticing changes, you'll never make her mad when you fail to notice something big).

50. Call Her at Work Just To Say She’s Special

If she works somewhere that she can take phone calls, call her work number and tell her you love her. This conversation is going to be short (since she is still working), but it can have a huge impact on her day (unexpectedly hearing from the guy she likes can brighten even a horribly stressful day).

…And since it’s short, easy, and free, why wouldn’t you try this some time?

51. Listen to Her Talk About Her Day

I get it: this seems small, and you may think you do it all the time.

But just once, try really hard to listen your best. She’ll notice a difference if you ask questions, empathize with her, and agree with her about all the events of her day, and it’ll make her feel incredibly special and grateful to be listened to like that.

52. Ask Her Some Questions from Our List

I put together this powerful list of questions to ask a girl, because it’s actually a great tool for several reasons:

  • It can help you get to know your girlfriend better
  • It makes you seem caring and attentive when you ask her thoughtful questions
  • It can lead to a fun, interesting conversation that she’ll remember

…And it takes almost no time to just ask her a question… yet she’ll immediately like you more when you show her that attention. Win-win.

53. Take The Time to Compliment Her

You might feel like you compliment your girlfriend all the time, but if her love language is words, then you might not be complimenting her enough.

So find something about her that you like, and tell her. Even if it’s a small thing, it can make her so happy to hear it (trust me on this one).

54. Touch Her Arm/Shoulder as You Speak to Her

If this is your wife, girlfriend, or even just a girl you like, this is a powerful gesture that shows her that you really like her. But it requires almost no effort (cool, right?).

55. Tuck Her Hair Behind Her Ear

Just like I said above, a gentle touch is romantic and sensual. If she’s not your girlfriend yet, this gesture shows her that you like her…

…and if you’re already together (even married), it shows her that you still think of her as the cute girl you did when you met. And guys, all girls want to feel like that!

56. Brag On Her in Front of Others

Hearing you brag tells her that in your eyes, she’s so great that you can’t keep it in anymore. It’s one of the best ways to tell her you love her… even though you don’t have to say a word to her!

57. Flirt with Her in Public (Show Off for Her, Check Her Out)

No matter how long you’ve been together (even years), women still want you to think they’re attractive. Don’t you want your girlfriend to be attracted to you?

…And one of the best ways to show her is to flirt with her, just like when you started dating. So check her out (and let her catch you), and show off for her. She’ll love being the center of your attention, and feel like she’s a new girlfriend again.

58. Kiss Her Hand

All girls love to feel like a princess every now and then. Plus, you don’t need to make a big deal out of these little gestures, or do them in public… just while you’re watching a movie, or walking home, give the back of her hand a quick kiss.

It’ll mean more than you know.

59. Text Her Out of Nowhere (And Follow Our Texting Rules)

If you’re not in a relationship yet, you might have thought about texting the girl you like (hopefully you have already), but if you’re already in a relationship, do you still text her?

Well, to put it simply, you should. Women like to be texted a little reminder that you love them since in relationships texting becomes much more practical than romantic.

Pro tip: use our 21 tips for how to text a girl to know the right way to text her.

60. Remember Her Favorite Little Things

Every girl has things that make her melt, and they’re different for every girl (a kiss in a certain place, a word or pet name, or even just bringing home a surprise milkshake (my personal favorite)).

…And after being with her for a while, you’ll figure out what things you say, do, or buy make her melt. Remember what they are, and surprise her by saying/doing/buying them.

61. Make A Little List of the Things You Like About Her

Guys… a list of things you like about a girl doesn’t have to be long, cheesy, or intimate. It can be as simple and short as a note on her desk that says “I like your laugh, your eyes, and your generosity.”

See? It's simple… but highly effective in making her feel great. Leave the note somewhere she’ll find it, or even text it to her.

62. Offer to Take A Photo Of Her For Instagram

Almost every girl right now has an Instagram account and wants to post pictures of everything.

…And some girls will come right out and ask you to take that perfect shot of her being perfectly cute... but a lot of girls won’t (they don’t want to look 'dumb' or 'girly'). So if you notice that she looks really good one day, offer to take a picture of her. She’ll be so glad that you knew what she wanted!

63. Give Her a Little Nickname

Pet names (sweetheart, baby, darling, honey) are incredibly cheesy, but that doesn’t mean girls don’t love hearing it (in fact, being cheesy makes them like it more). So in private, call her a sweet pet name that only you two know about.

64. Read Up On Common Turn-Offs and Honestly Tell If You’re Doing Any

Almost all women have a secret set of turn-offs. Read the list and descriptions of all 7... did you know about them? And even more importantly… are you doing any of them?

…And if you are, I can guarantee that your girlfriend wants you to stop, even if she’s too polite to say it. Use our list to get in her head about her turn-offs, and be the guy who never annoys her with them.

65. Call Her to Say Good Morning

Frequent morning phone calls and texts are common when a couple starts dating, so if you’re doing this in that stage, good job! She loves hearing your voice first thing.

…But if you’ve stopped doing this (or you never did), try it. Just tell her you love her and hope she has a great day. It’s so powerful coming from your actual voice, rather than just a text.

66. Brush Her Hair/Help Her Get Dressed

As she's brushing her hair, offer to brush it for a second. It feels incredibly good, both physically and emotionally (because it makes her feel taken care of).

...Or as she's getting dressed, offer to zip up her dress, or help her get into her high heels. It's just a (sexy) gentlemanly gesture that she'll love.

67. Light Candles Around the House... Even If It’s Just to Eat Takeout

Candles have the seemingly magical power to make anything, even fast-food tacos, hugely more romantic.

So bring your food inside (or cook dinner for her if you're up for it), but light a few good-smelling candles on the table. It shows her that you want to romance her, no matter what else you're doing.

68. When You Go to The Store, Pick Up Something for Her

This can be as simple as her favorite magazine... or it can be the new espresso machine she's wanted. Either way (inexpensive or expensive), a completely unexpected gift can really make her day.

It shows that you know her, and what she would like, and you love her enough to just get it.

69. Put Flower Petals On the Bed

Sprinkle a few rose petals on the bed for her (and guys... make sure you actually make the bed first), and make your entire bedroom feel incredibly romantic.

70. Fill Her Car Up/Wash It

She's already got 1000 other things/chores on her mind... so why don't you show her how helpful you are, and take one off her plate?

Go fill her car up with gas, and run it through a car wash too. It takes something off her to-do list and makes you seem like a hero.

71. Draw Funny Faces On the Food in The Fridge… Or Just Hide Little Notes for Her

Draw or carve little faces on all the food in there (or leave a funny note in this unexpected place) and wait to hear her crack up.

72. Put A Surprise in The Fridge and Leave It for Her

Put a delicious bakery cupcake, a bottle of wine, or a takeout meal from her favorite place in the fridge for her. That way, she can immediately start relaxing and enjoying her treat when she gets home.

73. Make/Bring Her Coffee While She’s Getting Ready

Every girl loves coffee, and every girl likes to be served by her boyfriend/husband sometimes (serving shows your generosity towards her). So make her a coffee the way she likes it, and bring it to her while she's getting ready.

74. Ask What You Can Do for Her

This seems like a really small, but sweet thing to do for your girlfriend... but it's actually a big deal because you're offering to help her, in exactly the way she needs, without her even having to ask.

75. Take Time Off When She’s Sick

If she's really sick (or has a medical/dental emergency), take a few hours off work to take her to the doctor, or make sure she's comfortable at home.

Now... of course, she's able to take care of herself, but sometimes, isn't it nice to just have someone around to take of you? She thinks so too.

You and her probably have a huge list of go-to date ideas (if not, check out this powerful list of fun things to do with your girlfriend), but if you really want to do something romantic for her, take her on a date that's fully focused on her. 

...And while all of the following are that kind of date, they're not all insanely expensive, or overly girly.

76. Dig up space for her flowerbed

Does your girlfriend love to plant flowers? Well, she just might need a little bit of "manual labor" out in the garden. Dig up space for her flowerbed, and she'll be touched by this sweet move.

77. Kiss her on the forehead

Some of the most romantic kisses aren't on the lips. A kiss on the forehead communicates that you care about her as a person, and that's incredibly sweet.

78. Adopt a pet with her

Adopting a pet with your girlfriend is a major step, and it shows that you're mature enough to undergo a sweet project together.

Downloadable and Printable List of Sweet Things To Do For Your Girlfriend

Here is a downloadable and printable jpg/pdf list of sweet things to do for your girlfriend (right-click the image and select Save Image As...):

How to Pick the best sweet things to do for your girlfriend

It isn't always easy to pick the right sweet things to do for your girlfriend. After all, each girl is different! They might respond to different ideas and dates in various ways.

You might also be juggling tons of different ideas after reading this article. So how do you settle on just one sweet thing? After all, you can't do everything at once.

Here is how to pick the best sweet things to do for your girlfriend:

1. Consider Your Girlfriend's Personality

The first thing you should think about is your girlfriend's personality. What kind of things does she like? In the past, what kinds of romantic date ideas have she expressed interest in?

To get the best reaction, it's best to customize your ideas completely around her. That's the best way to make her feel special. Don't just "copy and paste" a romantic idea without considering her personality.

2. Don't Make It Awkward

Unfortunately, doing romantic and sweet things has a considerable chance of getting awkward. There are many reasons why it can get awkward, but it usually stems from the guy "trying too hard."

Instead of making her cringe, try to remain natural and cool. Don't think that acting like a gentleman and tipping your fedora is going to create an impact. It really needs to feel genuine for her to react positively.

3. Mean What You Say And Do

That leads to the last point: mean what you say and do. Most girls are incredibly intuitive, and they can detect fakeness a mile away. If you're going to do something sweet and meaningful, it's important that you actually have genuine feelings for the girl.

Don't do these things because you feel that you have to... Like it's expected of you. Instead, go the extra mile and do these sweet things for your girlfriend because you want to. Follow this mindset, and you can't lose.

More Tips To Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

If none of these ideas really jump out at you, perhaps you're looking in the wrong place for ways to make your girlfriend feel special. Sweet things to do for your girlfriend is really only one piece of the puzzle.

Even if you've already explored tons of romantic things to do for your girlfriend, you might want to check out some of these ideas as well:

  1. If your girlfriend's birthday is coming up, it's always a good idea to start planning early. If you get her that extra special gift, you can communicate just how important she is to you. Check out these birthday gifts for girlfriend for some top-notch ideas.
  2. If you're just focusing on communicating with your girlfriend, for now, you can find all kinds of romantic things to say to your girlfriend. These simple words can make a big difference, and it's worth reading through them for future reference.
  3. Asking your girlfriend a few meaningful questions can really help the relationship grow and blossom. Check out these deep questions to ask your girlfriend, and you can experience a deep bond as you share important secrets and truths.

In Conclusion

Just by reading through this article, you've already taken your first step towards improving your relationship. The fact that you're even thinking about doing sweet things for your girlfriend means that you're on the right track.

Not only that - you're doing better than 90% of other people. Most people never even think about doing something nice for their partners - as bad as that sounds.

The only thing you need to do now is simple: take that final step. Take action! Choose one of these sweet ideas and make it happen. We guarantee that she'll be blown away by the effort you're making.

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