What To Do On A First Date – 38 Great and fun things to do!
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Gentlemen, this is Mantelligence.
And we get it… Sometimes it can be hard to decide what to do on a first date (especially if she’s a real catch!)
But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
Because today we’re sharing with you the 63 best things to do on a first date that are almost guaranteed to make her beg you for another one.
I recommend reading through all of these 38 things to find your absolute favorites… but if you’re looking for something specific, you can click the links below to jump to that section:
I’m going to stop right here and say this: Where you take her doesn’t matter (but it helps!) It’s what you do with her and how you engage with her that will keep her hooked.
Some dates are better than others for this… It all depends on your personalities.
But really, no matter what you do or where you take her, as long as you make it a fun time, you’ll be light years ahead of most guys (that means actually doing things instead of sitting in a movie for two hours.)
Here are 38 best things on what to do on a first date:
1. Outdoor Adventures
Just go outside and walk around! Adventures will pop up everywhere if you’re spontaneous and say, “Let’s go in here” a bunch.
2. Get up insanely early and be the first customers at your favorite breakfast joint.
If you’re not a morning person, maybe skip this one. It also works as a second date the morning after your first date.
3. Go to a used bookstore
See who can find the strangest, the best, and the worst books in the store.
4. Go gift shopping
It’s never too early to get your Christmas shopping finished.
5. Visit a tourist hot spot in your town that neither of you has been to before
Being a tourist in your home town can be surprisingly interesting and fun! Check your local Historical Society.
6. Attend a local film or music festival.
This date could last hours so be sure to be ready for that.
7. Meet up for a drink
A quick drink is plenty of time to figure out if you want to go on another date!
8. Visit a new restaurant
Going to a restaurant completely blind is always an interesting experience.
9. Go Ice Skating
It’s sweet, romantic, and it gives you an excuse to hold her hand.
10. Explore a New Coffee Shop
Every nook and cranny. Hipsters leave all kinds of stuff lying around.
11. Walk a Dog Together
There’s a reason long walks on the beach are a thing. Walking with someone sparks great conversations. A dog just makes it more unpredictable.
12. Go to a Brewery
Nothing like a little liquid courage to loosen up the conversation. Just be sure you’re not drunk every time you hang out with her.
13. Head to the Zoo
If you go on a lot of first dates, a zoo pass is a smart investment that will save you money in the long run.
14. Visit a Flea Market
Flea Markets are great for people watching and finding things you’d never buy. In other words, they’re a blast.
15. Tour a Botanical Garden
They’re peaceful and give you plenty of quiet time to get to know each other.
16. Catch Some Views
Find some vantage points to snap some pics of a gorgeous view or two.
17. Hit Up a Karaoke Bar
One way to really get to know each other is by singing with all your heart. If you’re not afraid to sing in front of strangers (or her), she’ll be impressed.
18. Sample Some Fro-Yo or Ice Cream
This shouldn’t be a stand-alone date! Do it at the end of everything else you’ve planned.
19. Take a Ferry Ride
Nobody really uses Ferries anymore, which is why they’re the perfect, surprisingly enjoyable date!
20. Sample Treats at a Food Festival
Or just go to Costco. Either way, walking around and eating free samples is a cheap date that can turn hilarious when one of you tries something you don’t like.
21. Go for a Leisurely Bike Ride
A bike ride is a relaxing way to get some exercise and get to know her.
22. Go to the Beach
Show off those abs you’ve been working on
23. Get Lost in a Cornfield Maze
Only available in Autumn, cornfield mazes are often built on farms where you can buy pumpkins to make jack-o-lanterns!
24. Go to a Carnival
A fun, but expensive date where you can impress her with your knowledge on beating carnival games.
25. Go Rock Climbing
A local climbing gym is the perfect first date if you both enjoy getting physical.
26. Feed the Ducks
Feed ducks cracked corn, bird seed, oats, or rice, but definitely NOT BREAD. It can kill them.
27. Race Go-Karts
Get her heart rate pumping for a fun and exhilarating time she’ll always associate with you.
28. Go Horseback Riding
A little on the pricey side, but if she’s never ridden a horse, why not be the first person to do it with her?
29. Attend Trivia Night at a Local Bar
You’ll almost definitely lose to one of the regular patrons, but it’s still a fun time. Plus there’s alcohol!
30. Make Like Tourists in a New Neighborhood
Go to the rich part of town.
31. Take a Nature Walk
To me, there’s nothing more relaxing. Make sure it’s a more popular trail or park though, otherwise she might get uncomfortable if you’re too far from other people.
32. Thrift Store Fashion Show
You can find some great outfits at the thrift store, both serious and absolutely ridiculous.
33. Restaurant Hop
Even though it’s illegal, bar hopping on a bicycle is a blast (I wouldn’t know though.)
34. Take an Art Class
Paint a pretty picture that you can show off to other girls if this one doesn’t work out.
35. Take Dancing Lessons
Seriously, you should learn to dance. It’s fantastic exercise and feels amazing. Alcohol will help get you started.
36. Pack a Picnic
Picnics are ideal for uninterrupted time alone to get to know each other.
37. Take a Wine-Tasting Tour
Girls love wine, and a wine-tasting tour is the perfect place to find a lot of it for a decent price.
38. Find a Pottery Class
This is a win-win! You’ll make a piece of pottery you can use and a memory of your first date!
This is the hard part. Figuring out things to talk about on a first date can be nerve-racking, but if you stay busy (by walking around or looking at things other than each other), the conversation will come naturally.
And even if you’re just sitting across from each other at a table and there isn’t much going on around you, if you keep some of these things to talk about on a first date in mind, you’ll be just fine.
Here are 25 things to do/talk about on a first date:
39. Talk about your childhoods.
Save the severe childhood trauma for after you’ve been dating a bit. Letting too much out at once is a big red flag.
40. Talk about your families.
You can learn a lot about why a girl is the way she is if you know a little bit about her family.
41. Talk about places you’ve lived or traveled.
We become more worldly and wise with travel and some of our defining moments come from far-away places.
42. Talk about date horror stories
Everyone has at least and they’re fun to recount (plus it’ll make her realize she’s on a good date!)
43. Talk about animals.
Most girls like animals so if you don’t like them, consider acting like one.
44. Talk about work grievances.
Work is a pain sometimes and it always helps to vent about it.
45. Talk about your friends.
You can pick your friends. You can pick your nose. You can pick your friends’ noses too, but I don’t recommend it.
46. Talk about the last concert/movie/play/party they made it to.
Talk about any and all experiences you’ve had. And be sure to remember the best stories so you always have one to tell.
47. Talk about dating experiences.
EVERY girl has been on a terrible date or seven. Hearing about them is a good self-esteem booster because at least you’re not that nuts.
48. Talk about passions.
This is an important one. Find something to be passionate about and work at it every day.
49. Talk about her hometown.
And more importantly, why she got out.
50. Talk about where she wants to travel.
Maybe you can take her there one day.
51. Talk about what she loves to do.
We all love something. What does she love?
52. Talk about her career.
Don’t spend too much time on this one, but definitely show an interest in what she does for a living.
53. Talk about her motivations.
What keeps her getting out of bed every morning?
54. Talk about her friends.
For some people, their friends are their family. And even if that’s not the case, the types of people she hangs around will tell you more about her.
55. Talk about where she went to school.
Did she draw that “cool S” everyone drew?
56. Talk about her favorite food/cooking.
Also, learn to cook. Girls like a guy who can cook.
57. Talk about her hidden talent.
It could be a naughty one…
58. Talk about her favorite music.
Music is one of humanity’s greatest cultural creations. Share some great tracks with each other.
59. Talk about what she finds sexy in a guy.
The word ‘sexy’ has an automatic sexual connotation to it. This is a safe question to get her mind on the naughty stuff.
60. Talk about adventure.
Adventure is the spice of life. Think of everything as an adventure and life gets more interesting.
61. Talk about kinks
If the conversation heads in this direction (don’t force it to go there), by all means go for it. You’re definitely getting a kiss.
62. Talk about books.
63. Talk about what she’s up to later on or tomorrow.
She can crash at your place if she’s not busy. Or you can schedule something for tomorrow.
Unless you’re both giving off obvious sexual tension, your safest bet is to wait until the end of the date to kiss her.
Because if you read the signs incorrectly and move in for a kiss, the date is officially over once your kiss is rejected. And that’s awkward.
So follow these steps to ensure you have a successful and memorable kiss on the first date.
Here are 11 things to do before you kiss on the first date:
1. Watch the signs.
As the night progresses, keep an eye out for signs she wants you to kiss her.
2. Check your breath.
Lick the back of your hand (in private!) If it stinks, your breath stinks. I always carry gum while on a date. Pop a piece in before you make your move.
3. Linger at the end of the date.
At the end of a date, keep the conversation moving and mainly focus on how much fun you had with her and how great you think she is (once you’re ready to make your move, stop talking and go to step 4)
(Note) The next 7 steps should take no more than 10 seconds to complete.
4. Make eye contact.
People who can’t maintain eye contact are viewed as distrustful. Keep those eyes locked!
5. Get physically close.
Slowly move a little closer to her
Smile often. You’re more handsome that way.
7. Shoot a glance at your date’s lips.
If she catches you and wants you to kiss her, she’ll get quiet all of a sudden.
8. Ask your date if you can kiss her.
If you think you’re reading the signs correctly, don’t ask, just slowly move in. But asking in a sweet way works too.
9. Break the touch barrier.
This needs to happen throughout the date to build sexual tension. It lets her know you’re into her. But as you move in for a kiss, move your hand to her cheek or the lower portion of her back.
10. Enjoy the Kiss!
Move in and let those lips lock! Don’t forget to come up for air!
11. (The Bad Ending)
If she rejects your kiss… It happens and it sucks. You did your best and it’s going to hurt for a bit but the most important thing you can do for yourself is learn from this date by figuring out where you went wrong (maybe you didn’t do anything wrong and she just wasn’t that into you. That’s okay too.) and maybe your next date will be more successful.
More Tips On How To Get The Girl
Getting the girl requires more than a successful first date!
- If you can’t figure out how to approach a girl, we’ve got you covered.
- How to talk to girls gets easier with practice and the knowledge of how to do it.
- No girl wants to kiss a guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing. Learn how to kiss a girl!
Deciding what to do on a first date can sometimes be the hardest part. Especially with so many options!
Follow these steps to help ease the anxiety.
Here are 5 steps on how to decide what to do on a first date:
Where you go isn’t as important as how you handle the date! Make it fun. Don’t forget it.
2. Figure out What She Likes over Text
It’s usually the case that you text a girl before you go on a date with her. Use some of our questions to ask a girl over text to get to know her before you even ask her out on a date.
3. Watch the Weather
If you’re like me and don’t check the weather often, you’ve probably had your plans for a date ruined by a thunderstorm and didn’t have a backup plan. Which brings me to my next point…
4. Have a Backup Plan (Or three)
Anything can happen between the time you plan a date and the actual day it happens. Have some backup plans in case your first option doesn’t pan out.
5. Once you Decide, Get Pumped
You should always bring your best self to a date, so it’s important to actually be excited about it. That excitement will give you the confidence to ask her out…
And she’ll notice your enthusiasm once the big day comes.
Well there it is. Figuring out what to do on a first date should be no problem now.
And I know I keep saying this… But as long as you are fun to be around, where you are doesn’t matter.
Now get out there and plan some dates!